NYGal, sorry to read that moving out was tough for you. It was very tough for me too. (((Hugs )))
Gmum, the thought of meeting new people does frighten me. I have been out of practice for so long...
I was reading some comment that you made in another thread. That you don't want your D to say that dad left and mum keeled over and died. It made me smile and I thought I wouldn't want kid to think that too.
Exactly. The narrative needs to be that we picked up ourselves in this ugly situation and came out on top. Giving up is not an option. Also wouldn't hurt if the was and their new relationships crash and burn. Ahem...
Gmum, you're right. Giving up is not an option. We'll just have to take water breaks along the way and press on!
I am not so sure about the X and OW crashing. If they were to crash, they would have already? The OW has the resources to make life very comfortable. And she is desperate enough to be willing to do anything to grab onto her last chance at snagging a guy who wouldn't mind a widow of her age with 2 kids. She knows that if she doesnt make it with the ex, she may not have another chance of finding a ready-made father for her kids or a husband for herself.
She is not stubborn like me. She may not have the morals not to go for a married man but she is smart enough to know whose a$$es to kiss, and I have to admit that she does do a very good job. And even if she does have a resting biatch face, she does a very good job of hiding it from the ex. And the secrecy of their affair, the rumours they've put out on the streets about me in our profession, all these serve to prolong the fog of the affair.
For me, I guess the fat lady has sung.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
I wonder if the fact that I havent found a place that I would like to buy is making me skittish. I love the current apartment that I am renting but it's not going to be permanent. I want to get something permanent before my lease runs out. But I haven't found something that is of the right price, size and location. I guess eventually the most important deciding factor would have to be the price.
I don't need something too big for kid and me. Just an apartment big enough for kid's piano. The stuff from from the ex-matrimonial home will probably have to be put in storage for some time or given away.
The X has never seen this current place and it irritates me when he makes it sound like it's the slum infested with lice.
And the constant contact with the ex's family is twisting the rope around my wrists. I get random phone calls that sound like they are temp checking me and trying to find out where I am. It throws me off and I have to struggle to keep on even keel again.
But seriously, this lice saga is wearing my patience thin. So so hard to have a pma when all my spare time is spent combing hair and washing laundry and bedsheets.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
Thank you. He got through the first, and more minor, procedure just fine while I was traveling for work. He goes in next week for what should be the final, and more serious, operation. I will be there at the hospital while he is in surgery and just to make sure he gets through it ok. Will have to see the XW but a small price to pay in this case.
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I guess I want to start dating for myself. Just want to see what's out there.
Hey grlonfr, just popping over here to say thanks for your reply on my thread.
You sound like you're doing really well - that's wonderful. So sorry you're dealing with lice! My friend hired someone called something like "The Lice Whisperer" or something like that when her family could not get rid of lice! I think it mostly focused on completely obsessive combing.
Thanks again for your reply. I'll keep following along here.
Gmum, you're right. Giving up is not an option. We'll just have to take water breaks along the way and press on!
I am not so sure about the X and OW crashing. If they were to crash, they would have already? GIVE IT MORE TIME!The OW has the resources to make life very comfortable. And she is desperate enough to be willing to do anything to grab onto her last chance at snagging a guy who wouldn't mind a widow of her age with 2 kids. SNARKY AND I LOVE IT.
She is not stubborn like me. She may not have the morals not to go for a married man but she is smart enough to know whose a$$es to kiss, and I have to admit that she does do a very good job. And even if she does have a resting biatch face, she does a very good job of hiding it from the ex. LOVE IT! KEEP IT UP, MAKES MY SMILE. And the secrecy of their affair, the rumours they've put out on the streets about me in our profession, all these serve to prolong the fog of the affair. WOW, CAN I RELATE TO THIS!!
For me, I guess the fat lady has sung. YOU NEVER KNOW. MAYBE SHE'LL CROAK INSTEAD.
