He told me he is leaving to be with his mom and family for 2 weeks. I guess my boys do not matter in this equation. I asked him to text the older kids if he needs to talk with them but to not contact me, I told him I was uncomfortable with him being in my home and asked him to leave. No more doormat. I but him on the autoreject list for now. Back to healing me he can go fly a kite
H tfish...your name looked familiar, so I followed your posts and found you in the MLC section.
I'm so sorry. If it's any consolation at all, my H is tightly in the grip of MLC. He's destroyed our entire family. I fought with all I had, but just couldn't save him from himself. Hanging on to him was like trying to baptize a cat! I had to let him go.
I'm okay, because I have so much work to do on me in the meantime. He can go "find himself and happiness" - I'll start making things better for the kids and becoming the best version of me that I can, one day at a time. That's enough for me right now.
I'm really sorry that it didn't work out - but MLC is a tricky monster and can take years, if ever, to emerge from. Healing you is absolutely the best thing that you can do right now. Take care of those boys - they will need you so very much.
Thank you Ancaire. I am just feeling overwhelmed by this ...I hope in him going home he can confront his monster and get some relief for him at least. I just feel heartbroken for my boys. He was a great dad and is now nonexistent and selfish
