Sorry, only now seeing this. Hoping you are doing well. Maybe you should consider telling your wife to pack her bags instead of you doing it. How do you think that would play out?
When my W was having her meltdown, she insisted I move out. I was so caught off guard by the whole thing and scared out of my mind that i did in fact move out, and have regretted it ever since. It really might be time to force her hand and suggest she go find another place to live.
Keep us posted on how things are unfolding. Wishing you the best!
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife