I understand. I plan to see a counselor to talk to. Focus on myself and just keep moving fwd in my life. Life is far from finished for me. I am just tired of the BS from all this. Nobody deserves this sort of garbage in their lives. And unfortunately I W still has never said why, or what happened. Only I didn't mean for this to happen. I appreciate the response.
Side question: Still set on moving forward with the D?
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
Hi Woundedfool, Sorry I have been absent for a bit on holiday with daughter. I plan on stopping D. I will do this after the first. She can file if she wants to.I thought about it and the D needs to be on her. Not me. I found her journal and some of the things she had written regarding her thoughts (extremely mixed up/confused) and how she felt (loves) me just months before A began. Having read quite a bit of information on the MLC she has acted exactly as described in the information I have found. She even felt like she was having a MLC according to her journal. My wife recently read some of the articles regarding this and she also agreed that it is what she felt was happening. If it were just an A. I dont think she would have just walked away from her D and her home. She left everyone including good friends behind. Moved from her beautiful home into an attic apt.. Which is way out of character for her. She has been a little more talkative lately since the filing. But the other day while we were gone she stopped at the house and tried to get in. I had changed the locks. Her key was in the house. This upset her as she thought it was done purposely. It was not. We had talked about changing the door knobs to a stainless look. So I did another project.
I plan on stopping D. I will do this after the first. She can file if she wants to.I thought about it and the D needs to be on her. Not me. .........But the other day while we were gone she stopped at the house and tried to get in. I had changed the locks. Her key was in the house. This upset her as she thought it was done purposely. It was not. We had talked about changing the door knobs to a stainless look. So I did another project.
I am not a lawyer, but I would urge you that even though you are (or have) stopped the D proceedings: Have your attorney prepare and execute a separation agreement.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
Azzork, I appreciate the comments but I disagree on this point.
I somehow missed this.
I just want to point out that on 12/8, you said this: Anyhow my focus is on me and my daughter right now.
Then on 12/9, you did this: So today my daughter went to the city she is moving to after graduation. She is signing her lease for her 1st apt.. I had gone with her to locate the place for her 2 months ago. Today my WW drove up separately from D to see place. I decided not to go along. My D was ok with my decision not to go. My WW expected me to be there but I am doing a NC with her so I really did not want to be with her and pretend to be a family at this time.
So which is it? If the focus is on you and your D, I cant see any reason that you wouldnt want to be there.
The reason I didn't want to be there is my daughter wanted it to be a fun day for her. Not one where she felt she needed to be a mediator and do all the talking. I bowed out so d would be uncomfortable. Her boy friend W had never met before) was there and my W. This was not a family outing that we were having. My wife has been so in and out of our lives this year that it felt right not going. It worked out fine. She came over before Xmas and we spoke, then my d and I went to the keys for the holidays. We returned and I moved her to her new apt. I left it up to D to invite her to the move. She declined. This is between her and her mother. I am doing my part as a parent. Problem is my W isn't. I have stopped the D proceedings as of today. I am going to leave it up to her to decide what she is going to do. I am still working on me, and GAL doing things that please me. I am having difficulty moving on from her, but I am trying. I love talking to her but it is a rare occasion. But since I have filed she has been a little more responsive to me. Still hardly any contact with daughter though. I have discussed separation laws in Michigan. They dont provide any rights either way. Its either divorce or not.
