Tomorrow my marriage could officially be over. With all my heart I don't want it to be. Settlement conference with a judge..he has us in 2 different rooms and tries to get us to agree to terms. Probably won't even see her. Guess I'm hoping from a stay of execution from the governor..or my wife.
I made a slideshow of our happier moments and set it to music and sent it to my wife. I guess I'm hoping against hope to maybe reach the person I married.
Sorry to hear that. Although you still never answered my questions on your other thread. Your relationship can still be saved even after the D.
To be honest, it sounds like you'd rather hold onto your pride and not open yourself up and play the victim rather than actually doing something about this.
I get it that you're hurting. Hell, we all are/were in your shoes. But unless you decide to do something about this, nothing will change.
That slideshow was the WORST thing you could have done. ESPECIALLY based on your last interaction with her.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Has nothing to with pride. I admitted to her that I was totally at fault and just wanted forgiveness and a chance to show her that it would never happen again.
Has nothing to with pride. I admitted to her that I was totally at fault and just wanted forgiveness and a chance to show her that it would never happen again.
I posted this to angel recently, and I think it applies to you.
Let's pretend that you beat a dog every day for 10 years. (And note - I am NOT saying that you are or were beating your wife) Then the dog runs away. You think, "hmmm, that was wrong of me to hit the dog so much." You find it and say "Im sorry, dog. It's my fault. It will never happen again."
Do you think the dog is going to come back with you right away?
Of course not. It will take a long time of repeated actions to prove that you mean what you say.
Same concept applies here. You cant just say "I was wrong. Lets try one more time." It doesnt work that way. You need to become the person you want to be and repeatedly show your W the new person that you are.
But until you put in the work, make the changes, be the new you....theres no reason that she will believe you.
