I am not sure if I am posting this correctly. I am new to this. So Me and H only married 4 yrs. We dated when we were 18, but obviously both very different people back then. We both have older children but they don't interfere in our life. what's so sad is that it's US. basically I am the free spirit, love to work out, spend time with family, and love outdoors. H is a homebody, t.v. person, does not help around the house, insecure, needy and does not trust me. I have never given him a reason not to trust me. talking after 5 min turns into arguments and we go weeks without talking.
We did Christian marriage counseling and did fine with it only to fall apart a week after we were done with the sessions. We are now in Individual counseling and ever since he started that he is going backwards. I finally went to a marriage counselor and asked H. if he would go with me. He said he had to wait until he spoke to his therapist tonight bc he doesn’t think she would suggest it. We sleep in separate bedrooms and basically live as roommates. Our finances are separate, he only buys groceries for himself and we split our rent down the middle. I have asked him to leave because I can’t do this anymore but he won’t. For the life of me have never met such a person. But I know it takes 2 people to make something work. I am trying but don’t know what to do anymore
Last edited by Cadet; 10/07/1508:52 PM. Reason: Carriage returns for readability
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
