Dealing With Walk Away Girlfriend With "Issues"

[Scotsman]

Thanks for the wise advice Cadet, I appreciate your time and thoughts as always.

I'm putting much more focus on me now, and feel significantly more detached than a week ago. I have set some personal goals in terms of more exercise, investing in my daughter as well as getting involved in new music and work projects. The whole notion of self love and working on what you can control gives me a sense of liberating self empowerment:)

My ex-gf has asked me for some space right now. While she is amazed and overwhelmed (in a good way) at the love, care and compassion I have shown her, she feels she cannot make a decision about us with true agency while my presence is so strong. She needs to feel she can come to a decision completely by herself, I get it.

I told her I understood and respected her need for time and space and that I would back off with all self initiated communication. If she does reach out, I will respond cautiously but kindly.

I feel in a good place, I have only compassion for her, she is a tormented and conflicted girl. Her feelings of abandonment and insecurity caused by a negligent father and her mother's suicide are strong. I do hope with the counselling she has planned, the research she's doing and contemplation will lead her to a higher stage of personal evolution. She acknowledges that running away every time when things get tough is not the best way to deal with life. I think she doesn't know how else to deal with those thoughts and feelings right now. She knows I'm the right guy for her and is clearly still in love with me. For the first time in her life, she is being challenged to do something different. Time will tell if she is able to do so.

This "going dark" period is already helping me focus on me. I hope the space she requested is useful for her. For the first time ever since we met, I will be truly gone from her life.....either she'll miss me or she'll be ok with all!

Will keep posting.

Thanks for reading and take care of yourself all!