No I have not yet seen a lawyer. I know I should. As for my state I don't know that either. I have kept my head in sand as far as moving forward with a D.
I did look up child support in my state. There is a child support rate calculator on the web. According to the calculator, someone with my income can expect to pay 1300 to 1500 a month. 1500 would pay for the private school they attend. My W and I both want them to continue to go there. I'm wondering how much (if any) amount over this I would be expected to pay. At this point I know that I will be fine emotionally without her but I don't know where I will stand financially.
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I am still contemplating separating or finances. The only reason I haven't yet it because she doesn't make much money and cant pay all of her bills and her share of the shared bills. Would it be reasonable to split or finances and give her a certain amount of money to supplement her income? This supplement money would act as child support. But since we are still in the same house I don't think I should have to give her anything for child support.
I think the fair thing to do is have her pay her half of the mortgage and her half of the kids school (the kids are in an expensive private school). However she cant afford to do this.
Does anyone have any experience with in home separation and splitting finances?
This all sounds arbitrary. I think it's wise to at least contact a lawyer, give him some income numbers and see what the actual payments would be. For example, childcare costs vary based on the difference of your income. And there may be spousal support. Id find out now, so you have the knowledge.
I just made appointments to see three different lawyers next week. It is my understanding that once I have seen these lawyers she is not allowed to use them.
It made me physically ill to call these guys. I cant believe this is happening. Why in the world would anybody put themselves through such a devastating experience. I know im going to get screwed here. I make more than twice the amount she does. I wouldn't think she would clean me out so to speak but I don't know this woman anymore. I don't know what she is capable of. I like to think she would be easy on me but at this point I think she is going to try to get everything she can from me. Why wouldn't she? she doesn't care about me.
My mind is racing and I ma worried about what is going to happen. She still hasn't filed or moved out or done anything for that matter. I started looking at my finances and it is overwhelming. I cant breath.
M:39 W:40 S:10 S:7 D:12 BD:3/5/15 Separate BR:3/5/15 W moved out with kids 1/3/16
I just made appointments to see three different lawyers next week. It is my understanding that once I have seen these lawyers she is not allowed to use them.
It made me physically ill to call these guys. I cant believe this is happening. Why in the world would anybody put themselves through such a devastating experience. I know im going to get screwed here. I make more than twice the amount she does. I wouldn't think she would clean me out so to speak but I don't know this woman anymore. I don't know what she is capable of. I like to think she would be easy on me but at this point I think she is going to try to get everything she can from me. Why wouldn't she? she doesn't care about me.
My mind is racing and I ma worried about what is going to happen. She still hasn't filed or moved out or done anything for that matter. I started looking at my finances and it is overwhelming. I cant breath.
tkd - First, relax..... So, I make about 2.5 times what my wife makes. Separate from the cost of daycare, Im paying around $1250 a month for SS and CS. We had almost no savings and she got it all based on our home equity and such. Ive essentially gone to bank account balance of $0.
But, Im fine. Ill budget a little bit for a few months, and be OK. Thats what you get a lawyer for. To make sure that you come out ok. The only thing to be scared of is not knowing.
I looked at some child support calculator online and it said I would be paying 2300 for CS alone. I cant afford that. I hope this stupid calculator is wrong.
I know is shouldn't say this but I hate her for putting our family through this and I wish she would move out and leave us alone. She will get the kids no doubt and probably the house and everything I have busted my ass for. I literally pushed a wheel barrow to the position im in now. I have built an incredible career with no college education. Now she will get everything because she is not F*&^ing happy. It makes me sick.
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im sorry but im pissed. This is all BS. she has no justifiable reason for any of this. I hope she is happy after she wrecks the lives of everyone around her.
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She is going out of town this weekend and I am so happy for that. I don't want to see her moping face. Walking around the house like she has had it so bad.
Im so mad at myself for kissing her butt for the first 3 months of this sitch. Who im I kidding? I still kiss her butt from time to time.
How was your day? Is there anything you need from the store?. Im done with that. Ive hit my breaking point.
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I hope she is happy after she wrecks the lives of everyone around her.
My mom said this to me last week. That my W wrecked my life. I just looked at her and said "She hasnt wrecked my life. She may be wrecking hers, but she is NOT wrecking mine."
You are not the captain of her ship. You dont need to go down with it.
