I started this thread to show appreciation and thank Michelle, Sandi, Wonka, Mr Bond and a lot of others for making this website a welcoming safe place for all those in need when they have no where to turn to and are desperate for help.
May GOD continue to bless you, us, all, to keep fighting to save our families and ourselves and keep FAITH alive!
So many great men and women have been broken and came out better people through these times of despair thanks to the techniques taught here.
I myself have changed dramatically thanks to this!
This is a community that truly cares about each other. With the state of the real world, it is refreshing to log in every day. There is pain here, but I see this a place to heal and grow, instead of a place of excuses and blame.
This board has helped me more than MC, IC, talks with my sister, talks with friends, etc. Because you all have been through, or are going through this. Thank you! You have given me support, guidance, and strength!
I second the motion. Thank you to everyone for giving me the strength to look out for myself and to stand up for what I want. I am regaining my self respect that has been lost for some time.
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
I too had similar thoughts this morning at the end of my post so glad you went above and beyond. Here's what I said earlier.
I want to thank everyone in this forum from the newbie’s, to the vets and for the long timers because everyone has something to bring to the table and share. I read many situations that are similar to mine and very different from mine, from H or W, way wards or not, there is usually some very good advice that can be relatable to my current situation or something that I find to save in my back pocket for a rainy day … : )
I agree that there is a special bond here for us and I am so glad I found you all to share my story with. You all are appreciated.
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
Seen this thread and to be honest, this guy .. yeah the same one who can't describe an event in less than 1000 words ... I struggle with what to say and how to say it.
Landed on this beach about a year ago ... a full year after BD, made a few mistakes prior to arriving and several more once I did. Thing is ... I was never slapped around for it ... sure a 2x4 here and there out of love and compassion from internet strangers who wanted the same thing I did just as bad as I did ... though it really did not effect their daily lives as it did mine.
Who does that? Helps poor suffering souls ... put themselves and what they have learned 'out there' like that? Well ... over a year of constant reading an learning I discovered its people who know the deep pain I felt and decided to use what they learned, advise others in hopes that somehow that same pain might be less for the next person.
I can tell you this ... I am forever a changed person because of this forum, the DR DB books and all the advice I was given, not only directly on my threads .... but what I learned reading others, vets and newbies alike I acquired such a different perspective and vast amount of knowledge out of all this. I can never say Thank you .. nor give back... enough.
If you are new .. and you are reading along searching for those slivers of hope, my advice is its not always where you think it might be nor in the form you expected and definitely not on the timeline you hope for. Personally I was separated almost 2 years ... yes 2 years .. 20 months and 10 days to be precise .... my W was 'done' we were 'oil and water' you name it I heard it, the vets here have heard it ... but they also know what to listen to, what to look for and helped me find MY way and figure myself out. Currently ... W and I have been under the same roof almost 3 months and slowly rebuilding our M
My complete heart felt thanks goes out to everyone here
