I have been married to the most wonderfull woman for 30 years.I cannot say that I have been the model husband.I have strayed...gotten completely lost at times!......I have mistreated her...dissapointed her....taken her for granted.
She annouced last week that she wanted out.I responded in anger.....broke most of the 37 Rules.
I then gathered my thoughts and started searching for help.....this is as good a place as any.......
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
Good Morning......feeling a bit better today....wife came home from work last eve...actually smiled a teenie weenie smile.....ate the food I prepared.....we both went to bed not talkin but nooooo fighting......did see her looking at places to rent online though....that put me back a bit but I stuck to my guns and did not speak or show emotions...just went through the motions....made as if there isn,t a problem in the world that I couldn,t solve....hope its the right thing to do.
Just keep POSTING and one other bit of advice from Wonka that I totally agree with.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
Get DR/DB book. Keep this to yourself. DO NOT share this book or this site at all with your spouse. It is your playbook and not to be shared with the "opposing" team.
It is important to clear the search/browsing history from your computer on a daily basis to prevent the possibility for your WAS to stumble on the DB site and discover your posts here on DB. Erasing the search history will protect your posts and you as well.
We have seen too many Marriages blow up in pieces after the WAS discovers the DB site or DR book. Why is that? It is because the WAS thinks, erroneously I might add, that you are "manipulating" them back into the M.
Keep the DR book and DB site very close to your vest.
