Holy cow! It's been over two months since I posted last.
Here's a very quick update. I'm still plodding along as best as I can. I've dropped the rope and I'm still seeing my new lady friend (NLF).
I travel up to Lincolnshire to see my boys every other weekend, picking them up and staying with my mum: we're there now. I do not speak to my ex and only exchange the briefest of texts or emails about the boys or the house were trying to sell.
I had the boys for two separate weeks over the school holidays. One, we spent exploring the area where I now live, and the other, we went to Paris on the Eurostar.
I feel guilty for dropping the rope. I also feel bad for thinking of my ex when I'm with NLF. And I feel as though I'm beginning to coast again, not striving to be the man I want to be.
I hope I'll be able to return here more regularly, maybe on a different forum as I'm not a newcomer any longer although I still have a lot to learn.
M: 57 / EW: 52 T: 21, M: 8 S: 18, S: 15 Bomb: 1 Jun 14 EA Aug 2014 I think PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner
I'm sure the process of true healing has lots of starts, stops, coasts, and surges. It's only natural to feel guilt and mixed feelings when there was someone in your life for so long. It means you're a good man. It means you care.
Hope you do come around and use the board to get yourself back on the track you want to.
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
Hello OD, really good to hear from you. It's great to get an update from people who haven't been around for a while.
You certainly sound in a better place than you were 4/5/6 months ago. And probably having some fun times with NLF has helped. I guess there is always that elephant in the room. Is it right to date if you are M and hope to R with your W if possible? Maybe that's now what you hope....but it's worth staying aware of that and keeping things light and honest with NLF if so. It would be a shame to hurt a 3rd party because of your own pain.
So if you feel you are coasting, what would you like to do next in terms of goals?? xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
OD, I'm happy to hear your update. I wouldn't worry too much about coasting for a short time, I think it's necessary occasionally to consolidate and make permanent the changes we have already made. Just be aware of where you'd like to end up and don't coast forever. I hope you keep posting from time to time.
