My thread is on the newcomers board. The short version is: bomb hit 1 yr. ago. H unhappy, I thought marriage was great. I was controlling/judgemental he avoided conflict at all costs. We were seperated for 3 months (he left) then home for 3 months and then left 1 month ago for 2nd time. I am DB as best I can. I have changed for the better since last fall. He is looking for "happiness." He asked for a D when he left 1 month ago and is now doubting his decision at times.
My question: We have not ML since he left until a few days ago. He initiated, I jumped at the chance ( I use to reject his advances before the bomb hit). The next day I initiated and he said NO, he was not in the mood. He regreted that we ML the day before and said it makes him confused to ML. We talked and made up about something he was mad about and then he said maybe we could try again later in the week. Tonight (friday) we went out for my birthday and he initiated ML again. It was great but he of course left afterwards. He is staying with a male divorced friend. I do not believe he is having physical A. There was a possible EA but not sure. When he left he said maybe we could try again tomorrow. I said sure. He is going on a business trip for 1 week in a few days.
Should I continue to accept his advances? Will this bring him closer to me or will it make me his mistress? His love language is physical touch. What do you all think??? nik
I would say go ahead and accept his advances...at this point it doesn't seem to be hurting anything and who knows it may just bring you closer together...
Thanks for your reply. My gut tells me the same thing. H is going on a business trip tomorrow for 1 week. We ML tonight.
After he left I noticed the person he may possibly be having an EA with called today when I was not home but H lied when I asked if anyone had called (no need to get into the details but I knew he was on the phone and he denied it.) In the past when this person called I would get very agitated. Maybe he is trying to not upset me, but he has a tendency of lying about "little" things and its just wrong.
Should I just let this go? This person is his boss and is going on the business trip with him along with a few others. nik
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Should I continue to accept his advances? Will this bring him closer to me or will it make me his mistress? His love language is physical touch. What do you all think??? nik
Go For it Girl! 
