if it's too late why is he still here?

[lost18]

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New Thread...stressing out over...for now

[mahhhty]

What happened? Who did he say he was with?

[lost18]

He didn't say, I didn't ask. He has, on occasion, gone out alone...I just felt this was planned. Again, ok except he could've told me. he came home and he didn't smell like another woman so I'm sure he went out and had a some beers. It is unlike him to stay out that late but what pisses me off is that D13 was calling and texting him and he didn't respond, (he said he left his phone in the car, not sure I believe that but whatever) she was upset and worried that "something happened to him."

I'm just having one of those WTF am I doing moments. I'm sure it will pass...talked to my sister and feel better for now.

Had a baseball game fundraiser for D13. Unfortunately I had to work in the concession stand most of the night instead of hanging out with H, SIL, BIL and a few friends. Hung out briefly, apparently H is still planning on going with BIL when SIL and I do our run in Feb 2016...SIL told him he needs to reserve a room. We'll see what happens. When I finished H was gone, SIL said he went for a smoke but he never came back....I texted him and he was already home...didn't even tell his sister and her husband he was leaving, at least it's not just me.

We will see what tomorrow brings!

[lost18]

He did pull a coupon or something out his wallet and said something about it...it was from Hooters. I asked "is that where you went last night?" he laughed and said no, he went there when his buddy was down and commented that he doesn't like going there cuz he feels "like a dirty old man." LOL

[Bob723]

Hello Lost,

I feel bad that you are going thru all these games with your H.

I can't think of any solid advice now but I wanted you to know I'm thinking about you.

I wish you well.

(((Lost)))

[mahhhty]

Seriously, this story sounds odd.

"I texted him and he was already home...didn't even tell his sister and her husband he was leaving, at least it's not just me." He doesn't even tell his own sister?

"I asked "is that where you went last night?" he laughed and said no, he went there when his buddy was down and commented that he doesn't like going there cuz he feels "like a dirty old man."... So in an indirect way you asked him where he went, and all he said was that he didn't go to Hooters. Where did he go? Did you ever ask? Did D13 ask?

[mahhhty]

Lost... Try to keep your head on straight even though it is confusing! It seems confusing to me, but most importantly is how it makes you feel.

[RAI]

Lost,

It seems kind of irresponsible What your H did. What if something happened to D13 - Heaven forbid. You should at least document it somewhere. My 2 cents.

RAI

[lost18]

It is odd.

As BIL and SIL were leaving and we had determined that H left BIL made a comment about it being H's MO. SIL says he'll stop by their shop she'll have to go to the back to do something and tell him she'll be right back and comes back and he is gone. Years ago there were times when we would have people over and he would disappear...he'd be in bed.

I guess you're right, indirectly I did ask him and I don't know where he went. Most like just went to a bar and had some beers. D13 did ask and he just said he went out. I've said the same to her when she's asked me where I was.

It's not so weird that he would go out, just weird that he was out late and it seems like he was planning it. I had asked if I could take his jeep and he said no because he needed gas, I said I could put gas in and he hem hawed a little bit but said the sides were all on so I didn't take it.

And him not answering his phone isn't that unusual, but saying he left it in the jeep...unlikely.

He could have met up with a woman but he didn't smell like another woman and didn't dress up special....who knows.

[lost18]

I agree RAI, it is somewhat irresponsible...if he would have told me he was going out I would have come home early. I guess the only place it is documented is here if I ever need it.