i need to go through my mp3 player for the gym and playlists at work and change things up...to many woe-is-me breakup songs. one of play lists at work is 'Feel like $hit' and it has all being dumped or love lost music.
I think some Rush, NIN and Foo-Fighters are in order today.
Just a quick suggestion, although w and I built a massive music library most of which I have had access to from bd right to now, I spent most of the last 9 months NOT listening to it. I took the opportunity to visit soundcloud and spotify and many others and listen to new stuff, suggestions from slightly younger stepsister (ok, not many of those made my playlist ) but generally expand the horizons helps when you're aiming for a new you, also helps escape memories being triggered which - I dont know about you - but music has always done for me.
Keep going Z
Edz
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
ya music is about as powerful as it gets in my heart. It triggers tears within me, puts me in a great mood, centers me, or can shut me down...depending on the mood of the song.
I will look at new options through amazon prime, see where that goes.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Wife just called, she just registered for her last three classes to get her BA. I guess we will find out soon enough if this is what she has been waiting for to leave, right?
I hate myself for part of me thinking that she could be capable of such deception. i have read enough of these forums and so many others, with so many LBS's who thought thier spouses would never be capable of such a betrayal.
oddly enough, my IC did tell me that at some point we were going to have to discuss some kind of discovery / disclosure session in order to figure things out...he even said that from time to time they have had to send people to polygraph. so much fun.
I hate myself for part of me thinking that she could be capable of such deception. I have read enough of these forums and so many others, with so many LBS's who thought thier spouses would never be capable of such a betrayal.
Hi Zephyr,
I've been trying to catch up with your situation. I don't believe I've posted a reply on your thread -- until now.
Please don't hate yourself, I feel the same way about my WAW, and hated myself, too. I felt betrayed, deceived and plain old stupid. After a while, I realzied that thinking this way was not going to help me detach and GAL. I spent too much energy being mad at myself.
It seems like you've received some great advice from many people.
Don't give up hope! I wish you well.
Take care.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Yes Zelda That is exactly how it feels, especially those days where wife is much colder and I start to doubt myself pretty hard.
Bottom line is I am just feeling sorry for myself, not using the gift of time wisely enough and not detaching as much as I should be already. I understand the concept, just not letting go.
) but generally expand the horizons helps when you're aiming for a new you, also helps escape memories being triggered which - I dont know about you - but music has always done for me.