I wish I had the answer for ya. Thats what I keep sayinga bout my ex. When we are together things are great. She has even said things like why couldn't it always have been this way. How do you convince them, that it can always be this way, that they have to take a leap of faith and trust just one more time. Cause if they don't they could lose out on the type of relationship that comes from surviving such trials. That it turns out to be the best, the kind that stories and movies are written about.
Hey Randy, hows it going, have yu been able to get any physical contact with your ex yet. Just wanted to let you know, today I while visiting son and ex, she was fixing coffee, I walked up to her from behind and started rubbing her shoulders. After a few mins I asked if she wanted me to stop, she said no. I posted the rest on my thread.
hey Elwood no physical stuff yet but we are joking around about being close or touching.She is still having supper every night together and we are going on vacation.I am going to colorado for 10 days the end of september so that may help,who knows maybe I'll come back and she will be moved in.She tells me alot more about where she is and where she is going.Like she really cares how I feel and that should be a good sign.I'll check your thread
yea, brother, that is a good sign. Keep up the good work, before long there will be some really good news for you to share. But be forewarned, expect her to backslide a little, she may not, but be ready for it.
I hope I do.last night we went to supper and I wasn't having a real good day and was griping at the kids and she started on me and said somethingabout not being in a R that she argued and I said you won't have to worry about it after tonight if thats what you want.Everything was fine after that and we talked when we got home and just told her that I wasn't perfect and if thats what she expected thatn we might as well stop trying now and then it was from her "what you want to give up"?so now she is asking.She said she was trying but she just didn't have the desire to have those I want to be close feelings.We are going on vacation next week and she is going to dinner with me so we will see.She did say she didn't think that she could just move back in.So I suggested that she stay sometimes and keep her apt for a while and we could start by not sleeping together.
Good ideas Randy, I wish mine would allow me to move in to the guest room, maybe some day. Your doing good, keep up the good work, and remember the causesof your split up didn't happen over nite, and so reconcilation wont either.
Hey Randy, good to see that you are doing some positive things to break the limbo pattern. I think your suggestion of 'sleep overs' wasn't threatening however, you didn't say if she agreed to it, disagreed or pretended not to hear.
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"It's better to have no spouse than have a bad spouse"
She basicly said that she would when she was ready and doesn't really want me to bring it up every night. She never has been what i would call touchy feely,like holding hands and such and I doubt that she ever will.She says she just doesn't feel romatic right now and that it is all her.She is still coming to the house every night and eating supper together and hanging out.i am looking forward to vacation and she also said she was trying and thats all I can hope for right now.
Randy, its great, she said she is trying. That is momentous. She is trying, as long as she is there is hope, and just look how far you to have come. I would trade the 2 intimates times me and my ex have had to be in your sitch. Things are going great.
