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[Vanilla]

Mza

Please read your own threads!

See what I see,

A man who:
1. Took more 2x4s from Wonka than any other DBer
2. Had the courage to change
3. Relates to his children (especially D) without judgement
4. Is loving and positive replacing the past with the future
5. Is committed to his own growth and understands his past
6. Who is clear in his advice despite English being his second language

Now tell me, could you learn from a man like that?

I did and I recommend to anyone reading this post to do the same!

Mza, ( my pet name for you because Mozza is inappropriate now), you underestimate how special you are. I have had the unique privilege of knowing and observing in real time your personal growth to this point, and I trust that I will have the gift of Mza for a long time to come.

V

[Karma12]

V you are as strong and vibrant as ever. Mozza listen to V

[Vanilla]

Mza is far away wondering the board with his lovely brand of direct, I am sure he heard us Karma.

H is away with his brother for the weekend at a Rugby match in Exeter. I am enjoying the peace and quiet.

And Liam, purchased a double DVD of Taken 1 and 2 from a charity shop. So indulging in a little bit of Mr Neeson.

And a glass of wine and a rice pudding.

V

[edz]

Well V you do have a very specific set of skills......for GAL

[Vanilla]

The last two days whilst H is away have been wonderful and peaceful. I have felt free to be V. No criticism, no drama no spew and no tension.

And no loneliness or fretting.

Fantastically simple and uncomplicated.

Relief, no stress.

More, more, more of this!

V

[Jbird]

V

Glad to see you are having a good weekend!


Jbird

[edz]

Agreed v its lovely to hear you had an opportunity to relax and unwind.

Have a good one.

[Vanilla]

Thanks Jb and Edz, I have had a lovely weekend.

Yes, until H came home.

Then it started again,

V: did you have a good time?

H: I can see you haven't cleaned out the fridge. I think there is stale bread in there.

V: yes I have cleared the fridge (which I have)
H: it is (expletive) dirty and there is none of my milk
H: you have not done all the ironing
V: I worked this weekend
H: abuse, abuse, spew, abuse
V: STFU and went GAL

Rang my Gamanon mentor from the car as was in bits again

Time says mentor to restate your boundary V and we discussed the text.

So text: V to H: I think, believe and feel that I am being verbally and emotional abused. I want this to stop as it is serious abuse that I am being subject to. This must cease immediately or action will be taken.

H to V: LOL!

WTF? My mentor is outraged at this. Next time the abuse starts she says she will come over and support me whilst I get this on the record.

I have recordings and will need more recent ones.

Possibly I have just ceased to be shocked by it.

Anyway I went to Ceroc and had a great time. I will not let this H spoil my composure and lovely weekend.

V

[Ggrass]

That happens nilla.

I was telling x about my life with h, and on paper some of the achievements were bloody awesome. Once in a life time stuff, but the company and conditions under which you did it not so much.

It's hard to explain to people who aren't there and haven't lived it, their answer was just leave. You should have left, but it's never that clear cut when your living the smaller picture. The bigger pictures crease to enter your mind as each small moment becomes so huge you cannot see the whole and they cloud your judgement.


This is a show from Australia's abc it's a current affair thing.

http://www.abc.net.au/tv/qanda/past-programs-by-date.htm
Click on the link about Rosie batty and domestic violence
If your story is like I think, you too will find this very tough to watch, but it was me.
Not any more.

[rd500]

Hi Vanillia. As I have stated time and time again. I am no vet but please please don't accept this behaviour from your H. Vanillia needs to get this sorted. You cannot live under those conditions. If your H no longer wants M than that's his right but after that NO ONE can talk like that to Vanillia. You deserve so much more and definitely more than the version of your H that's there now. All the GAL in the world won't get you past that horrible , childish , vindictive spew.

Vanillia Do what's right for you obviously but I hope you take a step back and see the whole picture. Your H has no control over his verbal attacks and Vanillia must take control

I hope you accept all I say is with the upmost concern for my friend and supporter Vanillia from your friend and supporter, Rd

I am so angry and upset for you. Hugs and a shoulder to lean, cry and to bump your H out of your way (LOL). Take care of Vanillia , she is very special to us all xx