My name is Luis and I wish to share my story and would like to receive advise and opinions.
I have been married from 2011 and separated from 2013 August 04, I am 28 and my current wife is 30. We have a princess born 2012 December 2012.
I am currently facing decree Nisi as my wife filed for a divorce due to unreasonable behavior and there has been no contact since start of 2014. She also has not allowed me to see my daughter since she was 8 months, now she's 26 months, due to she referred to me as a violent person, which in fact this is not true.
The allegations she made has been trying to kill my daughter and my wife, which as there is another court case for me to see my daughter, I initiated 2014 Sept and is still going.
My wife now stated she is having an affair as divorce papers stated cohabiting with another person and wants to remarry, and I have not started a relationship because of respect for my daughter and wife as I am in a marriage.
To the court I stated she is a good mother, as she has looked after our daughter, but knowing her dignity, she broke my heart and what dignity she has, although I still have the feeling of love or more care, but I read so many success stories of reconciliation, but I wonder if they are true, and I know each story is different, each and everyone is different but well, right now, I just am fighting for my daughter, however let me know your thoughts.
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Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
I have read the DB and I must say it helped along following the online community but is difficult to control the feeling and depression, along with decision.
I will elaborate on my situation if anybody has and is going through the same feel free to share.
I have been apart from my soon ex wife since 2013, she is now cohabiting with another man, and from her selfishness she doesn't want me to see my baby daughter who is 27 months. The last I saw my daughter she was 8 months.
I have had a court case to see if I can have rights to see my baby girl and during the second court she made fake allegations of me trying to make serious threats physically, which the police and court saw there is no evidence or marks, however, I never thought that the woman who I married would behave such manner where she would make such terrible decisions stopping my baby girl from seeing her father.
It ended during the second court where there will be another hearing which will follow up with witnesses (so she says, as the allegations made, there was none other than me and her living in the same house, and I do not know why the court had accepted this trial for waste of time with witnesses), but I still need to wait for me to see my daughter.
I fell angry and hurt, because I have not been a bad person, and despite I have feelings for her, and of course my daughter I love her, she is just behaving not according.
PS.
I met her 2010 online, she is from Russia, I am living in England, married 2011, and had a baby girl 2012.
What would you all think or what are your opinions.
I forgot to add, the court case for me to see my daughter, I need to wait for final hearing by September, this is when I may possibly or I hope to see my baby princess.
