Fear as a factor in MLC?

[beatrice]

I am starting this thread because I had a lightbulb moment yesterday in my continued dealings with my xh.

Reading his latest strange email, I realised that much of his apparent state of mind can be explained by fear. I have not seen (maybe missed?) much discussion of this aspect of MLC behaviour, and perhaps I am wrong or it is just my xh?

I think it could be why they can't be alone, why they seek validation, why they do not let go . . . . .

If this resonates, or you have any resources about this, I would love to know.

[Ggrass]

I think there was a thread and yes, fear and depression.

Play huge roles. Huge roles.

[CaliGuy]

I would have to say its a very big factor ... fear drives them to run and not face the issues, they fear being alone, fear 'wasting' their life, seems at times they even fear coming out of the tunnel so they run back in.

[Matt165]

Fear of what, exactly? Abandonment? Being hurt? Being judged? And yes, my W suffered from depression for a long time before MLC. I'm sure it had much to do with her MLC.

[kml]

Fear of death and dying. If you fear this and hit a milestone birthday or lise a loved one, some try to pretend it won't happen to them by returning to a choldish state.