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Inside my chrysalis 11 #2530980 01/26/15 04:51 AM
Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 1,077 Los Angeles. CA S Ss06 OP Member
OP Ss06 Member S Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 1,077 Los Angeles. CA	Previous thread! The last thread was one of serious growth and stability for me. I've had a couple days of setbacks but not 10,000 steps back, just 2-3 and just inside myself, not necessarily on my sitch... Which is unchanged anyways so... I want to get back where I was... Grounded, solid, strong, clear in thought, detached, etc. I had a terrible day with D. I mean TERRIBLE. It really shook me to the core and has me all worked up. We were having a GREAT January as far as her behavior goes... And just when I start to lean back and think we've turned a corner... A day like today happens. OMG. So, tomorrow starts my recommitment to building myself into who I want to be. I'm finding I'm ok with doing the internal work but not so good at the external work, the dream chasing (do I have dreams?), the signing up for courses, the acquiring of the job I want/need. I'm stuck in that department. Really stuck there. I want to thank you all for your support and guidance. Really. M: 37 H: 36 M: 13 T: 18 D: 7 Bomb: 6/30/14 Separation: 8/11/14 Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.

Re: Inside my chrysalis 11 Ss06 #2530986 01/26/15 05:48 AM
Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 1,077 Los Angeles. CA S Ss06 OP Member
OP Ss06 Member S Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 1,077 Los Angeles. CA	[censored]. I just discovered something on Facebook and caught WAH red-handed. I can't explain right now, my head is still spinning. I'm not sure what to do. He doesn't know that I know. Given the magnitude of what this implies, I'm handling myself very well. Not one tear. Yet. I never want to see WAH again nor hear his voice ever again. I want to vomit. M: 37 H: 36 M: 13 T: 18 D: 7 Bomb: 6/30/14 Separation: 8/11/14 Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.

Re: Inside my chrysalis 11 Ss06 #2530988 01/26/15 05:56 AM
Joined: Aug 2014 Posts: 955 Northern California R raliced Member
raliced Member R Joined: Aug 2014 Posts: 955 Northern California	OW? 2 Ds: 7 and 4 BD and Sep: 7/14 Divorce Final 2/16

Re: Inside my chrysalis 11 raliced #2530989 01/26/15 05:58 AM
Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 1,077 Los Angeles. CA S Ss06 OP Member
OP Ss06 Member S Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 1,077 Los Angeles. CA	Originally Posted By: raliced OW? Possibly many OW. M: 37 H: 36 M: 13 T: 18 D: 7 Bomb: 6/30/14 Separation: 8/11/14 Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.

Re: Inside my chrysalis 11 Ss06 #2530990 01/26/15 06:00 AM
Joined: Aug 2014 Posts: 955 Northern California R raliced Member
raliced Member R Joined: Aug 2014 Posts: 955 Northern California	Sorry Ss. I wish I could say I was surpised - but there sure don't seem to be be many WAH stories where there isn't an OW in the mix somehow. There's nothing I can say to make it better - it's just awful at first. (((Ss06))) 2 Ds: 7 and 4 BD and Sep: 7/14 Divorce Final 2/16

Re: Inside my chrysalis 11 raliced #2530992 01/26/15 06:36 AM
Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 1,008 G gan Member
gan Member G Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 1,008	Oh no, Ss. I'm so sorry. Big hugs to you. H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014

Re: Inside my chrysalis 11 gan #2530997 01/26/15 07:40 AM
Joined: Jan 2015 Posts: 557 B.C. Canada K Karma12 Member
Karma12 Member K Joined: Jan 2015 Posts: 557 B.C. Canada	It's so hard to be caught off guard. I was and it really hurt. Just remember this is all about him. You can't fix him,. Big hugs (()) Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.

Re: Inside my chrysalis 11 Karma12 #2531000 01/26/15 07:58 AM
Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 1,008 G gan Member
gan Member G Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 1,008	Ugh...I hope you've managed some sleep, Ss. Your news has left me feeling anxious over here. I was really hoping that you and I wouldn't go the way of so many others on here with our ~6 month WAH sitch. I'm so sorry. I didn't know what you liked, so I went out and got us some chocolate and dark ale Hugs again. H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014

Re: Inside my chrysalis 11 gan #2531029 01/26/15 10:51 AM
Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 192 S stacey9 Member
stacey9 Member S Joined: Jul 2014 Posts: 192	I'm sorry too Ss, hope you're ok xx Me - 44 Husband - 47 D20, S18 BD - Aug 2013 Moved out - Jan 2014 OW discovered Jan 2014

Re: Inside my chrysalis 11 stacey9 #2531031 01/26/15 10:57 AM
Joined: Mar 2014 Posts: 1,428 C claire7 Member
claire7 Member C Joined: Mar 2014 Posts: 1,428	Thinking of you Ss. Hang in there. Remember what a Rockstar you are. Me 38 H 40 D 3 T 8 M 6 BD 10/2013

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