In the time I have been off here I have: been working on my blog Learning archery with my 11 year old every other weekend. Started mandolin lessons Have taken a few hip hop dance classes Done individual therapy.
With the wife I have: Mostly kept positive, friendly, respectful, but kept my distance. Have tested the waters with small bits of affection here and there (with mixed results) Called out some passive aggressive behavior that seems to be cropping up. Told her therapy, either individual or together, was available for her/ us if she wanted.
I see her delving more into her gaming and detaching from me more. When I speak to her responses are either brief or none. She often won't look at me even while sitting next to each other at the dinner table while I talk to her. Therapy has been helpful. I am starting to see some pattern that developed. I am the pursuer and the therapist referred to her as a classic withdrawer and probably depressed. I am not holding out a great amount of hope at this point and am feeling resigned that divorce may be what happens at some point this year. Hope you all are faring well or better than I
M-44 W-44 Sons- 11&14 Married- 18 Together- 27 Separation mentioned- 9-29-14 Still together, but not "together" "if you feel rotten and forgotten, remember there'll be better days."
