RD, I wear a ring on my wedding finger. It's a monogram I bought myself after I stopped wearing my wedding band. I just don't like the feel of not having something on that finger--too many years I suppose.
Thanks Rppfl. It's nothing in the scheme of things i suppose it shows I am still looking for small signs she is thawing Thanks for the input. Take care. Rd
Interestingly My w has done the same with a ring too rd. She also wears a bracelet I got her years ago, She hardly wore it before but never takes it off Now, again our respective sitchs seem to be following Similar paths
Hi all. Another tough day. Got home last nite and W had collected kids and fed them score she left D13 was in bed not feeling the best. W text me to say she hoped snow wasn't to bad I sent a text back telling her that all ok but D13 in bed with bad head. W texted that D13 had felt a bit better before she left.
Later D13 had bad stomach craps so I asked D13 to text her mum to ask which medicine she could take. W did not respond for 2'hours. When D13 woke up she still had a small pain but felt able to go to school but she was a bit upset as W normally take her on a Friday to Ws bouse but D13 felt W had put her off going and did not want her. D13 felt Ws friends are now more important to her. As we drove to school D13 got more upset so I text W to call D13 to sort it out. W called her but it developed into an argument about who said what and D13 just got more upset. W then called me to explain and I told her that I did not want to interfere in their R but at the same time I did not want to see D13 upset. W told me that because D13 was a teenager , maybe she was playing up a bit. I agreed but explained that D13 was often upset of an evening and to no advantage. W thenstarted crying and said she wasn't sure what she was doing as she is often homesick and hates what she is doing to the kids. My mantra is time and I have said this to W often but when I tried today she pointed out kids seemed to be getting worse.
I told W I was going to take D13 home , which I did D13 finally calmed down after about two hours and W texted me to ask how everything was. I text back D13 was feeling a bit better but still down. W text me back to say that if any good was to come out of this mess it was that I was now a great Dad with a great R With my kids. I thanked her and said it was a shame I didn't realise before but better late than never. I also texted that things would work out for the best for us all and not to B to upset
She then called to say thank you for being so kind to her and she was sorry for all the upset. I told I hoped she would be happy at the end of this journey and she said she didn't leave to be happy but to get some peace from her confusion
D13 now lying on sofa with sore head W said she will come and see her later before she goes out
Very tough day and I really hope it gets easier with time
RD, I'm returning your hug and a little peck on the cheek ((((x((RD))x)))
Sorry you had a tough day - you're handling things really well - being the Dad you want to be. Sounds like your W is still struggling and feeling consequences.
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