I'm also in the situation where my W avoids full transparency, but for some reason we have a better R now than we had pre A. Acting nice and all, but I feel her heart isn't in it. She still has contact with OM and possibly seeing him.
At least in your case the A has stopped. Maybe if you have enough patience, everything will work out for you. But I understand that staying in limbo is hell.
M 30 W 31 S8 and S6 M 7 T 13 D-Day Mid December 2014 EA/PA confirmed end of December 2014
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what do I think...she does not want to be married to me but is confused because of the kids. Like her, I don't want to split up our family. I love being with my kids and frankly as a family, we have a lot of fun. That is enough reason for me to work at it.
But via a D, we will split. And all of that goes away. She already has said that she will not move out, but I don't want to move out either. Our kids love where we live. They have a ton of kids in the neighborhood. if I move out, it likely will be to a rental apt/condo where they will not have the same benefits. I don't want to be that guy...the divorced dude living in a two bedroom apt that his kids hate going to b/c there is nothing to do. But i also don't want to put my kids through this either. I want them to be happy and not some set of pawns in this process.
so what am I doing..just trying to focus on the kids and me. Trying to be patient, but it is HARD.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed
