I wanted to say, too, that I think your plan to move near family is a sound one.
I moved close to mine 2 years ago and I simply can't imagin going through all of this without them near by. Heck- even if the move is what pushed STBX into crisis, I would probably still think it was worth it.
But in the meantime, enjoy your adventures with your new friend!
Just back from visiting family in home state, reconnecting with friends, looking at neighborhoods to move to. Working with H to get his financial info to proceed with the dissolution. To those who are struggling to keep their marriages to people who cheat, lie, betray, and emotionally abuse them, I want to say this: it may not be worth it in the long run. It's a gamble either way, but I have come to the conclusion that I am happier on my own than with H. Whereas reconciling with him MIGHT lead to a happy future (not that he's asking for reconciliation), I KNOW I can provide myself with a happy future, not dependent on another person. If I happen to find a new partner in the future, then great, but I will proceed differently and probably always maintain my independence to some degree. Not out of fear but out to preserve my sense of self, and self-worth. The right person will understand that. And if I end up alone, my life will still have meaning and value.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
Oh Ahoy....I SO needed to "hear" that from someone else. I am kind of at that place myself...or at least trying to be since finding out XH has a new gf already (and probably has for awhile). I think YOU were one of the first ones who told me it sounded like an OW and I'll be darned if you weren't dead on accurate. I'm moving on and he might find happiness, but I know MY happiness will only depend on me, while he will have to depend on someone else, because he is incapable of making himself happy. I love your spunk and am so glad to see you back. Yay for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Yes, it is inspiring to hear that life can get better. I just realized today that I have cried EVERY day for the last 7 months. I have made a lot of progress but still am in a tremendous amount of pain. I'm not sure I will ever recover from this.
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
Dgb, I feel the same way. You are not alone! ((((Dgb)))) Sorry for the hijack, Ahoy!
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
