All of this was done very successfully without exposure. They pulled off many 180s, GALed their hearts out, did a ton of inward introspection and reflection to change negative patterns in their M's, and re-attracted their spouses. Happy, HAPPY!
I am sure I've probably left out a few for 2014. Please feel free to add to this fabulous list.
Wonka, I'm almost certain Train did in fact expose to her husband's OW's husband. She went pretty hard-core when she found out her husband was cheating on her again.
Thanks, Wonka, for this list. I've just been going back through the users I added to my watched list back when I first joined and a bit of digging reveals some other stories that are seemingly heading in the right direction:
Nettles, T0324 - I hope this doesn't make you feel pressured. Know that we are all rooting for you and find motivation through your hand work and commitment to seeing this through.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
To fairly compare exposing to not exposing, one would need to have the facts of how many that exposed reconciled to how many that exposed that didn't reconcile. If only 2 people exposed and one reconciled that would show a success rate percentage...
Compare that to how many didn't expose and reconciled to how many that didn't expose and didn't reconcile... that would give you a percentage.
That would be a fair way to compare...
Since we are on a site that doesn't endorse exposure it isn't a fair comparison to just site the total number of people that have reconciled that didn't expose vs those that reconciled that did expose. The ones that didn't expose will always be greater on this site.. However if you go to a site that endorses exposure, the number that reconcile with exposure will always be greater...
Michelle doesn't endorse exposure. If you do she warns us to be cautious and think about the ramifications.
I never uttered a word to H, OW or her family ... Ever. I, in fact, was next to her in the grocery store for a good 10 minutes before realizing it was her. Pretty sure she knew it was me... My boys were there and she stayed next to me for the entire time texting. Anyway I did however expose to his friends.. Only when people would bring up his lies. I would correct them so to say in joking tone - oh Ya they are totally just friends like he said they have a lot in common
H did try to sneak in some BS towards the end that I called him out on saying I wouldn't tolerate him lying to me that I wasn't stupid but he still would never say he was dating someone - in fact they posted photos of them kissing and he would still tell me he wasn't seeing anyone. In the beginning I was a mess but as a few months passed I got my sh*t together and started not tolerating his lies. I stopped being afraid to stand up for myself and afraid of how it might affect a R
