You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
My apologies for the ignorance on the abbreviations..i'm trying to find what they mean. I am working on doing more things for me slowly. I just took on a second job so i can become a little more finacially independant. I am also working on having repairs done to the house without his help.
Me:38 H:38 s11, d16 m12 bd 8/22/14 still living together
Bela, I can't tell you how many times I have to look things up on that list. It is right at the top of the newcomers forum too in case you lose it.
GAL, getting a life. It's great that you're fixing the house and getting more independent. Is there anything fun that you can do for you? Can you take walks, classes, meetups? What do you like to do?
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
I do some small things for myself. When I have time I go for short walks around my house. I don't do a ton of stuff yet. After all this happened last year i get high anxiety when i'm gone from the house for to long even if i'm with the kids, exception is work, so i'm doing little things. I have started reading again and working on my blanket project for my daughter and soon to arrive grandbaby.
I have also contacted a church that has support classes for separated/divorced ppl. Still waiting to hear on that.
Me:38 H:38 s11, d16 m12 bd 8/22/14 still living together
i'm hoping it will help to get over the anxiety but also add some coping skills. I'm also going to re read the books as a refresher. I want to move out but I don't have a place to take the kids and realistically i want to keep my house.
Me:38 H:38 s11, d16 m12 bd 8/22/14 still living together
