Am I on the right track? (2)

[wmwb123]

I'm starting a new thread since mine's reached 10 pages. Nothing new to report.

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[wmwb123]

I haven't initiated contact in two months. We haven't communicated at all in more than a month. Is this really the best strategy? I've been told that maintaining this NC shows my wife I am strong. Since we don't have children, there's nothing really to communicate about except for our fur ball. Do I just keep this up (detaching and working on me)?

[Starsky309]

Yes.

[wmwb123]

That's what I thought.

[MrBond]

"I just know that she's not going to even consider coming back to me unless and until she ends her affair. "

Not necessarily.

[wmwb123]

I have to file my response this week.
I'm just going to ask my lawyer to do what's in my best interests. That's what I'm paying her for, right?

[wmwb123]

If any are the praying type, please pray that I will have wisdom today as I file my response. I dread this.

[JFred]

I'm praying for you...that God grants you the wisdom you seek and need to get through this.

It is a horribly dreadful process. Listen to the good folks here and continue to pray about it. When we are weak, He is strong.

[Nitty]

Praying for you, nmwb123! God guide you. He will hold you up.

Re-read Theoden's post! Print it out and hang it up on your bathroom wall.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2469020#Post2469020

My walls are covered with posts like these. They help me a lot. And what Starsky said here:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2469020#Post2469020

...has been VERY helpful for my mindset.

[wmwb123]

Thanks, JFred and Nitty. Yes, God will hold me up. I will make it through this. I just have such a burden for my wife. I am concerned for her, and I pray for her day and night. I realize that I contributed to the breakdown of our marriage, but she is responsible for her actions, and they are not pleasing to God. I pray that God will punish me and spare her.