WAW Got fired from her job of 17 years

[joysjoe]

I was quite surprised to hear last Friday that she was asked to resign in lieu of termination from her long time job with a local municipality. She was distraught to say the least and turned to me. She spent the night with me and went scuba diving with me the next day.
But, even though she has turned to me in her time of need she still says her goal is to move in the direction she decided when she left.

I guess I am a bit confused, but, one thing I have to stop doing is telling her that our relationship is salvageable. I don't know why I can't keep my mouth shut.

Joe

[Shakspr]

I am overly verbal as well. If you must talk, I am learning that "You are doing what you need to do right now. I am doing the same" works fairly well when delivered calmly.

My DB coach offered me this: You have to mean well for communication to be any good. Assume she means well, too, even though what she is doing is very hurtful.

[joysjoe]

It was mentioned to me by someone else to
Listen to nothing she says and only half of what she does.

I need to take that to heart and stay positive.

Joe