Dealing with WAW part 6

[igit]

Pilot, from an outsider it looked like a great day. No D papers, dinner with dad and w, no biggie on the no response to drinks, hey she sent pic of her mom that looked like son, awesome! She new what today was and she let expire. Don't kid yourself that was big for her too. It seams things are better than 1 yr ago. Just keep being the best you. That's all you can do. Soccer is here that's big family stuff, take the team for ice cream and include w. Nothing like a good team. Great opp.to do fun family stuff

[LisaB]

Hey pilot, I would also see this as positive. She didn't reply to your text but maybe she just didn't know what to say, or maybe she got busy... or who knows!

Look at what your DB coach's advice was:

"She does not want me to get stuck in the friendzone and we want to keep any positive movement forward moving forward. No stop and go stuff, as it would only build confusion for a W who does not want to lead, but follow. "

So don't get all crazy and change your tactic again now. Just keep trying a little bit. Don't be pushy but just keep being friendly with a slight flirtiness thrown in for confusion.

Focus on the positives right now.

Hugs, LisaB

[pilot]

My W facetime'd with the kids this morning, and I did not say anything this time around. Later in the morning, I got a text from her saying to keep an eye on the kids. She does not think they are sick, but she said she had to go to the urgent care this morning with an awful sore throat. She said it was not strep so they should be ok. I replied 'ok, I hope you feel better' She said thanks. Then she sent a few more texts about various kid related stuff.

So I decided to do something nice. I went to the store, and bought all the ingredients to make homemade chicken noodle soup. I also got a bag of sore throat drops and a get well balloon to tie to the bag. Saw a really pretty pot of Mums, so i grabbed that as well.

I made the soup and got everything put into a box. On my way to pick the kids up from school, I swung by her place. Since she had gone through a bunch of effort to keep me from being there, and she was home at the time, I did not knock. I left everything on the front steps, and drove off. Then I sent the following text.

Me: Check outside your front door.

W: I just saw! Thank you so much!

Me: Welcome

30 minutes later...

W: The soup is very good, thank you

She then sent a few other non related texts.

I replied to one "I almost got you two of those flowers, but I was not sure you would catch the humor in it:

Haha, if SHE gets it, I will fill you guys in...

[LisaB]

Good job pilot! I like! And good that you did not ring the doorbell, I for one would not want people to see me when I am feeling sick.

One mum for each kid? I'm curious about your riddle!

[Sam3]

Pilot-
That was a very nice gesture! And a wonderful way to reach out without pursuing.
I would be very happy if any friendly neighbor did this for me.
Hope you can share the story about the mums.

[igit]

Pilot, good job, she knows you care about her, and when she needed a pick me up you were there. I think you did well! Way to go

[pilot]

Ok, she got it...eventually, about the mums. here is the text transcript...

Me:I almost got you two of those flowers, but I was not sure you would catch the humor in it

W: ???

Me: Look closely and you may get it

W: I dont know!

Me: What kind of flower is it?

W: Mum

Me: Two of them =?

W: Lol


(my W and I used the phase "mum mum" for oral sex)

[Ss06]

Soup?! What a very kind and genuine gesture! I would LOVE someone to make me homemade soup. It could definitely be considered pursuing (unless you're in the habit of making soup for your friends when they're sick) but it's suck a caring gesture. I love it.

The mum mum thing has me chuckling. It's DEFINITELY pursing but laughter kills sore throat germs, didn't you know?

[pilot]

It's DEFINITELY pursing but laughter kills sore throat germs, didn't you know?

So does mum m...err nevermind, family safe site!

[pilot]

Soup?! What a very kind and genuine gesture! I would LOVE someone to make me homemade soup. It could definitely be considered pursuing (unless you're in the habit of making soup for your friends when they're sick) but it's suck a caring gesture.

I always did things like this for her when she got sick. I would not hesitate to get out of bed in the middle of the night and drive to the drug store if she woke up with a sore throat or sick and needed medicine. It never occurred to me NOT to do that.