I have my 20th anniversary coming up in 3 weeks. Just started my 180. Wife says she loves me but not in love with me about 10 months ago. She doesn't want a divorce and says she is fine with basically being roommates in the same house. She doesn't have anything to do with me and is very hostile and critical of anything I do. Should I do anything for the upcoming anniversary? Any suggestions would be appreciated.
W-44, m-57 D-17 S-13
W-44,M-57 Married 20 D-17,S-13 W and I own our own business and work together.
Three questions about this: What is your anniversary/gift-giving track record? How important are gifts to her? Followed by, what are her love languages?
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
I have always given cards and flowers for anniversary and we go out to eat. Over the last 9 months she has not accepted any gifts from me accept on her birthday. She takes her birthday seriously. She hates being alone with me and avoids situations where that happens. Can't even get her to go out for dinner but she goes out with her man friend that she has an emotional bond with at least once a week. Gifts are important to her but just not from me lately.
W-44,M-57 Married 20 D-17,S-13 W and I own our own business and work together.
Hi caeman. Sorry to see you in this position. I'd give the anniversary a miss this year. Make it up when things are better.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
