Hello forum. My W of 8 yrs and I are on the brink of separation due to her having and EA (not physical) and me doing all the things one shouldn't do. In less than 2 weeks she is set to move out with the kids. I'm hoping she doesn't, but I also don't think I can change enough of myself to hopefully turn her around. Moreover, from me checking our online phone account, I can see that she texts OM throughout the day and night regardless if she is at her second job or at home. A particular goal I have set for myself is to not touch her (ie holding, rubbing). Unfortunately, at night I find it very difficult to sleep if she's not there or if I haven't at least rubbed her back or something. When asked, she states that she doesn't know how she feels about me touching her, but she allows it. Moreover, she appears calm when talking about the kids or details of the separation. Note, she does not touch me in return. So, is my goal realistic or do you think by me not sticking to the goal I'm really causing myself and relationship more harm than good?
