Talked to the WAW today. We had an issue 2 years ago and she left for a week. She came back and we started a remodel of the house. She said when we were finished the remodel everything went back to the same as it was. She said she wished we had been able to resolve the issues back then. I believe we were not capable of resolving them because we were not aware of how incapable we were of communicating. DR is helping me with this problem of not communicating. I hate it that me learning to communicate may not be used with my wife. I can't stand the thought that the things I am learning could possibly benefit my next relationship instead of with the woman I am so in love with right now.
She is mad at me right now because I completed the PADI Scuba Diving certification last weekend. It is something she has always wanted me to do and I was not open to trying it.
I wish she wanted to resolve our issues instead of saying its over and done with.
Just keep working on you. If your improvements stick long enough, she may actually come to believe in them and become interested again.
Be the best you possible.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
She was going to go diving with me after my certifications were completed. However I have an opportunity to further my education in the sport by participating in the Advanced Open Water course next week. She cannot go the weekend we do our checkout dives for that course. Should I go ahead with my plans and tell her we can dive later, Or should I cancel next week and catch up with her when it's possible?