H was very text happy today..... I ignored anything that wasn't about financial stuff.
H asked about "us" when we met for the baby's 2 month check up. I told him minimum 3 months of IC then I meet with his IC to discuss his progress and then I would consider MC.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
i think they sound like great boundaries for ic/Mc twinmom, and how great is that he's willing to work on "us" with you, going dark has worked really well for by the sounds of it. You rock!
I'm not gonna lie: I think, to put it mildly, most of us here who have been following your sitch from day one have serious reservations about your H. I know you do, too.
But it's your life. Your family. And it seems your heart is still at least a little open to him.
Might I suggest, while you're making suggestions to H, that the FIRST step would be for H to write a no-contact letter to OW that YOU approve? Because last I checked, he was still texting her. Until he's ready to admit to HER - and to YOU - that he wants to repair his M ... and end all contact with her ... then him going to an IC is pretty much a waste of time.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
Figgeroni I have been going to an ic since day one
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
I haven't caught up entirely on your situation, twinmom, but looking at your signature always makes me chuckle a little because the OW kicking him out after 3 months just strikes me funny. I shouldn't be laughing at any part of your situation because all you're going through is not a joke.
I'm going to peruse your other posts to see if you explain why she kicked him out. I can't wait to read it. LOL. Hey, my D6 is at "her dad's house" so I need some form of entertainment. Hope you don't mind.
On a second note, your attitude has really been awesome.
Ss06..... the reason she kicked him out is soap opera funny! And go ahead and laugh, it's the only thing that keeps me functioning some days..
The whole thing is soap opera material, I should put a manuscript together and make some $$$$
I have lost some more weight :-) down to 152....... only 37 lbs to go! (I never lost all the weight from the twin pregnancy)
I have been running about every other day, and I am working up the courage to run my old "route" which goes directly past OW house..... I keep telling myself I won't let her control my life. I had even started grocery shopping in another town and if I had to run to the store quickly for something I would drive through the parking lot looking for her car before I went in to make sure I wouldn't run into her. I avoided taking the kids to any parks/local festivals/walks because we live so close (1/3 mile away on the same street)
I am taking back my life!
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Your courage and tenacity are inspiring twinmom. Seriously! Please let us know when you do run past OW's house. We'll all celebrate with you!
Can you direct me to the thread with the story of the OW kicking your H out? I'm dying to read it but I can't locate it... june... can't seem to find it.
