I second what MrBond said. Also, believe none of what he says and half of what he does. You've got 3 1/2 months. 180, GAL, be the woman only a fool would leave. Make the changes for you so, if he does follow through, you'll be awesome either way.
Hang it there. New babies are really hard. So maybe he's just overwhelmed. Be patient.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
He said it after I went out with a friend one night but I looked nice. While I was out her sent me a message saying "You looked really good". Then the next day he told me I had to get out. I'm not moving. We own the house together so I've sought legal council. I didn't want to but he's left me no choice. I have to make sure that I protect me and my kids. He keeps playing with my head and my heart and I can't take this anymore. Maybe it is time to give up completely and move on. He has. He has a new girlfriend with whom he is staying with and he barely sees the kids anymore. He says he wants to be friends but to be friends you have to talk and see each other and we don't. Im so confused and hurt right now. I have no idea what to do.
amacin T - 12 years M - 8 years S 7 D 3 DB - 07-10-14 WAS \ ILYBNILWY \ MLC
Don't give up, but moving yourself forward some and being the best you possible will help.
Post here more, if you post regularly, you get more help.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
I'm trying to focus on me and the kids. I've signed up for a positivity class and counselling and the kids and I are in family counselling. I'm trying to keep busy and keep myself busy. I'm doing things that I've always wanted to try. Like learning to ride a motorcycle and I'm going skydiving tomorrow. But it still feels like it's hopeless. I know that no matter what I will be the best possible me I can be when this is over but it still hurts and I still miss him.
amacin T - 12 years M - 8 years S 7 D 3 DB - 07-10-14 WAS \ ILYBNILWY \ MLC
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I have been talking to a divorce busting coach but I'm not as happy with him as I thought I'd be. I'm not feeling as confident in my marriage as I thought I would be. I'm starting to see a counsellor for just me. H will not see a marriage counsellor anymore.
amacin T - 12 years M - 8 years S 7 D 3 DB - 07-10-14 WAS \ ILYBNILWY \ MLC
So today I'm really hurting. I really miss H. I'm not sure why it's so bad today but it is. I feel like I can't breathe and like there's no hope left. I want him to want to come back so badly but yet I don't want it to be too soon because I want us to actually work out all of our issues. What do I do? How do I make it through this?
amacin T - 12 years M - 8 years S 7 D 3 DB - 07-10-14 WAS \ ILYBNILWY \ MLC
I don't have any good advice but you do what you have to, to get strong and get through this.
Cry, get angry, eat chocolate and ice-cream, work out, go for a walk, take the kids out. Do something to make yourself feel good because that's all that you can control. I personally go on Pinterest and search for inspirational quotes.
It's up to you to make yourself feel good and be happy. Don't rely on other people to make you happy. Fake it until you make it! Put on some lippy and turn that frown upside down. The rest will follow.
"Happiness will come when you let go of the hurt that's holding you back"
*big hugs*
Me- 35 H- 36 D-6 D-5 Married- nov 2004 Sep- june 2014
So I just found out that H is now seeing someone. I shouldn't be suprised. Considering he left me for her. But it still hurts none the less. I feel like crawling into a hole and drying. It hurts so incredibly bad.
amacin T - 12 years M - 8 years S 7 D 3 DB - 07-10-14 WAS \ ILYBNILWY \ MLC
