First of let me say that I do not want to divorce. I agree with Michele's reasoning in Divorce Remedy. I have however moved out and no longer live with my husband (been out of the house for 1 month now). I am not sure how much of Divorce Remedy applies to me since I am the one that has left. We do have 2 kids.
Long story short we have always had communication issues while dating and during the marriage which I have been willing to work on. We have went to counseling several times and have essentially been told the same thing in reference to communication. I need to talk more and he needs to talk less.
My issue with my husband is that he has always opted to talk with other females outside of the marriage and carry on an foster these "friendships." I use the term friendships in quotes because I know these friendships aren't strictly platonic. These are women that he is meeting on social media and has deep, personal, intimate conversations.
After leaving the house and being gone for about a week he said he was willing to do whatever it takes for me to come back. I gave him a list of things he would need to do for reconciliation and it addressed a couple of his "friendships" and how I feel as though he should apologize for any appropriate communications and let these women know that he was out of line saying some of the things that he has said as a married man (I have proof of the inappropriate comments) and show me proof that he has done this. He has outright refused to do it.
Aside for the ultimatum is there anything else I can do or should I just resign myself to move on and realize that me, the marriage and our family are not a priority for him.
Well I wasn't able t see me posts and the advice. So I think I have made another huge mistake. I have retained a lawyer and the lawyer has sent him a letter letting him know that I would like to separate.
Trust me I have been GAL when I don't have my kids. I have been doing things for ME that I have put off and put aside. Getting out and doing stuff has kept my mind busy and kept me from missing my kids so much when they are not with me.
So how are things now? What are your interactions like currently?
Interactions have been very minimal. I can't even get him to respond to my messages about the kids. We mostly communicate over IM and now he doesn't respond. I call he doesn't answer, he tells me to leave VM and he will call me back, I do that and again nothing. The few face-to-face conversations we have had have been extremely volatile.
