M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Found out today my H filed for divorce, 2 8weeks before our 15th wedding anniversary......
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
I'm sorry to read that he's filed. Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Just curious as to what people do to forget/forgive the ugly,mean and the cheating the spouse does? One minute I'm okay I'm past it and can move on and the next I think about it and hate him. It's hard to continue on with the stages when...with are you doing this for creaps in. Then I think are you crazy?? especially when you have a H that hates you 1 minute and wants to be friends the next. I try as best I can to limit contact and only for kids.
I know it's part of the process but I just wondered how other people handle it?
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
We don't handle it. We accept what it is and work on ourselves. Read as much as you can about forgiveness. This will help you to accept your S as is at the time. Remember, you can believe any that is said and only half of what you see. It's true.
As I was driving on a 9 hour drive a in remembered a letter my H to me. In it it said he hasn't been in love with me for about 2 years. Not sure what happened 2 years ago but doesn't really matter. I guess he was starting his MLC then??
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M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Actually something happened 18-24 months prior to that letter. But, yes, his mlc was going into full swing w/the letter. I'm sorry the memories are starting to surface. Feel the pain and the release it.
I hope you are doing well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Lately my H will call me to talk instead of just text. This is the guy who "hated" me and never wanted to talk again... He told me "you're not my mother"..wants to call me to talk and "be his mother" ??? Isn't that the gf's job?? Lol
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Oh and asked me to help with some applications, which I used to do. I said why can't your gf do it? He said she doesn't need to be involved in that.. Wth?? She is a LD relationship 2 hrs away and see each other maybe once a month.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
