Forget about the meditation. If you don't want to try it, it's fine. There are many other things you can do instead. The bigger issue is that you're finding excuses NOT to do things. MrBond hit the nail on the head in saying you're looking for the easy way out. We all started out the same way. We all looked for "the answer". The answer is this: do the work. Improve yourself. If you don't do it, not only will you lose your wife but you'll be back here in a few years with a new woman and the same problems.
How far through the books are you? Do you understand it? Do you have any questions about the book?
No one asked me to do the test someone asked me if I had ADD.
Im on the chapter keeping yourself happy..
So let me get this right.. dont talk to her until she comes to me basically..and dont give a monkeys balls what she says or does..
Ok so my texting have become very straight forward but I need advice if im being cold or anything.. this is how it went today.
[19/06 08:54] *Me*: Whats in the foil? [19/06 09:08] *Her*: Salad [19/06 09:12] *Me*: K [19/06 09:12] *Me*: Thanks [19/06 11:01] *Me*: Hows your day going..? (I shouldn't have messaged her this right? She didnt even reply back to it, at this point she checked it and went offline on whatsapp, she switched her last seen timestamp on; maybe to show that she read it.. ive now switched mine off so I dont see hers either and dont let it affect me). [19/06 12:41] *Her*: Do you have measurements or the living room window [19/06 13:06] *Me*: No, sorry [19/06 13:36] *Her*: K [19/06 13:36] *Her*: Thort u didnt like dat pic?? [19/06 14:20] *Her*: Listen [19/06 14:20] *Her*: Yo [19/06 14:20] *Her*: Sanas asking wen we want the rice [19/06 14:21] *Her*: So wen can we pick it up??? [19/06 14:21] *Her*: Coz in the evening thers so congestions is ther [19/06 14:21] *Her*: Hellooooooooo [19/06 14:21] *Her*: Yoooooopoooo [19/06 14:21] *Her*: I need to no wen so i can tell her [19/06 14:21] *Her*: Yoooo [19/06 14:21] *Her*: Helloooooooooo [19/06 14:21] *Her*: Normally always on the fuckin fne [19/06 14:22] *Her*: Now im askin u and u aint replying [19/06 14:22] *Her*: Oiiiiiiiiiiiioiiii [19/06 14:22] *Her*: Helooo [19/06 14:22] *Her*: [censored] saks!!!! [19/06 14:22] *Her*: Oi [19/06 14:22] *Her*: Cool ima giv her a tym n date n ur gna have to stick by it [19/06 14:25] *Me*: Im busy at work, was in a meeting.. and thats fine let me know whenever
Nope, you handled the texting just fine. Too bad she's agitated. It's good to not be available for her on demand. She isn't. Look at the timing of her responses to you.
It would have been better if you had waited for 35 mins before responding to her last text in 3 mins.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
Well I been constantly reading over sandis rules and it says dont go to spouse for convo let them come to you..
I'm not sure if the one below is what you are thinking about, but maybe you misunderstood it?
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#15. When at home with your spouse, (if you usually start the conversation---then don't, wait for him/her) then, be rather scarce with your words, but don't sound rude or too short like you are mad. If your spouse asks what's wrong....just say "nothing" and have a pleasant expression on your face. Keep it short and simple. Don't get into an argument! Stay polite and don’t act like you are pouting. Use poise and class. This does not mean to act like you aren’t speaking, but don’t be overly talkative.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
