Earlier I mentioned I invited an ex gf to my son's bday party when I knew my wife was attending. I have read several threads where the LBS is generally discouraged from opening new relationships with others if the goat is having their W or H back. But a person's spouse is already in an A either EA or PA, how could there possibly be judgement from the other? Understand I am ranting and venting and ultimately I know if I want my W back, introducing an other woman into my life is not productive. However when word got out I may be getting divorced, I had 3 OW from my past prior to marriage contact me and all seemed pretty excited to the idea I may be available. 2 of them are ones who let me go and now they say really regretted it. The other is one where a purely physical relationship would exist, no real possibility for anything long term. I guess what I am getting at is at this point in time, the window of opportunity for 2 possible futures outside my M exist, and should I at least consider them?
Do not get me wrong, if I had my way I would have my wife back and only her. I have never even had the desire for another woman and would never have had an PA. But seeing as how I cannot control her actions (other than changing myself and hence how she reacts around me) and DBing and LRT are not guaranteed...
I know I know the answer, I am just thinking aloud...
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
copied this into my original thread. once i figure out how to delete this i will
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
