Im going to share something. I left my 1st w for my ex. I was 22 years old. Left her with 2 young sons. My entire pay went to her until 2009. I lived in shame all this time. My sons now 29 & 27 dont want anything to do with me.... I dont blame them...you will wake up many days wondering how the kids are, what they look like, who they look like, how are they doing in school, who they hang with....You wont matter to them... when you get to my age it will matter very much to you... I too wanted greener pastures..somehow they all dried up after awhile....
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Rick. We've been seperated for two years. I'm not cheating. She's gone on many dates and I have a gf. We did work on the marriage. We did spend time focusing on us. But it wasn't going to happen. But I never cheated. Please be careful with your words
No cadet no lies. I think you have posted on her threads many times. She values your input. But yes I'm positive she is in an EA. And has been for quite some time. You don't text someone daily, speak with them into the night and ask them to visit if there is nothing there. I am good with this. I encouraged her to date during our separation and it was genuine. I encourage her still. But the whole time we spent working on us she was in a EA with a member of this forum. It was hard to repair an M when the other has moved on.
No I disagree. Both my W and I have dated during the seperation. It is accepted during this time. Cheating as you call it is when one person steps out without the others knowledge of consent
CW, you're saying all three...no...all FOUR of you are on this forum???
You, your wife, her BF... Wait that's three. Is your GF on here too?
If not, she should be. Then this would get really interesting!
Anyhow. If at least three of you are here, how come all this stuff is going on?
What was your purpose in coming here?
Was it to get some insight or dig up dirt?
Because I would still help with the former. The latter, not so much.
But I will take a clue from the vets here and STFU.
I'm curious to see how you handle it from here.
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Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
For what it's worth. I have three male FRIENDS who I occasionally text late at night, talk to on the phone, and see on a regular basis.
They are very caring and supportive. The also know I am MARRIED.
Just having a male friend does not make it an EA.
I am not talking about, nor doing things with them I would want to hide from my husband. I am an open book.
Lately, being "separated", I have been talking to them more. Just like I've been talking to my female friends more.
But an EA means keeping secrets because we know what we're doing has crossed the line.
Do you REALLY know your wife is in an EA?
Sounds like you are, definitely.
Decisions should be based on FACTS, not feelings.
IMHO.
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
