Well, firstly THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for all of your support since I joined here, it's been priceless & I really wouldn't be where I am now without it - thanks to each and every one of you that has taken the time to reply showing support!
I haven't posted now for a couple of weeks but I'm back & feeling stronger, more fulfilled & happier than I've felt in many years acceptance has been tough, complete acceptance that my H isn't the man I married anymore & can no longer be a part of my life, acceptance that my marriage is dead & has been for a long time, acceptance that I could never be happy with my H as he only brings negativity to my life...
With the acceptance has come peace, it's an amazing feeling after everything. I now feel that I'm on the right path, I am 100% sure that I want a divorce and that my marriage can and will never be revisited, I NEED to do this for my own self preservation and to allow myself to live a happy, peaceful & fulfilled life. I may have lost my marriage but in doing that I've found myself and I'm able to be ME again without being afraid, bullied & emotionally abused!
My children are much happier now because me & H are both happy which is a big relief! DB hasn't saved my marriage & in a way I'm glad because I truly believe this is the way it's meant to be, it has saved me though & i will always be grateful for that. I've learnt so much & will continue to learn throughout my life.
I'm dating someone new, it's fun life is very good right now, getting divorced isn't going to be easy but I know it's what I HAVE to do now. Im feeling happy with who I am & where I'm going, I consider myself a DB success story & hope this gives others hope that no matter what happens in your marriage you will be happy again!!
Divorce Final: Oct 2014
Your struggles today, develop strength for tomorrow...
Hi up. Great post. Sounds like you are doing the best you can for yourself and your kids. Thats what matters most.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
Life still all good here went to file for D last week but didn't have some paperwork so going back tomorrow - in a very good place & happier than I've felt in a long time!
Divorce Final: Oct 2014
Your struggles today, develop strength for tomorrow...
acceptance has been tough, complete acceptance that my H isn't the man I married anymore & can no longer be a part of my life, acceptance that my marriage is dead & has been for a long time, acceptance that I could never be happy with my H as he only brings negativity to my life... 