My husband filed d and attended D conciliation yesterday. I decided to let him go. I'm doing the 180. I need support. Looks like h moved on already. Tnx ------------ H-48 never been married W-37 M-3 yrs H wants d- 1.5 yr of My Living together Separate room Filed d- 3/19/14 5/13/14 conciliation meeting
Keep your chin up. The 180 isn't easy but often necessary. I'm in similar situation and I feel for you. Some people just can't commit and this isn't your doing. I was told that he was all in and as soon as we said "I do" he became Jykle (and my best friend got to see Hyde). Anyway, I also understand about the moving on already. It's a shock for those of us who weren't in the loop that it was over and the spouse doesn't even want to try. Work on yourself and hopefully you'll be able to move on. I know that I still have hope. It sounds like at least you did some DBing. My spouse was gone physically and mentally so irrational that I couldn't even try. Letting Go and Letting God take care of the spouse sometimes is the best thing for both.
Hi owl, It really takes a lot of courage. All the conversation is Hello. Just like this morning. Yesterday, when I saw him and said have a nice day he seems like in a good mood. Today, he seems like pouting and showing to me this is it. I don't know what on his mind...... I tried to commit to the 180. I don't want to initiate conversation and act as if I'm ok. Though not. I'm just glad I'm able to share my feelings with u owl.
Stick with the 180 and follow through. Sometimes we don't know what is behind the scenes, which is really being in the dark. But, keep sharing with all of us rather than asking him what's on his mind, etc. Read and re-read Sandi's rules. It is the best way. All of us rebel and try it our way again, and well results are just like they were before. Try this and maybe it'll work for you.
Is it ok to initiate conversation with my husband like hi or good morning? Or should I have to wait for him? At this time, I'm doing the last resort also the no contact
