My first union job is going well. Funny thing about making more money... seems the government and union takes more.
With all the initiation fees and extra fees, I'll pretty much break even on this show. So.. not earning yet.. but feel like I'm heading in the right direction.
In other big news - there's a new lady in my life. We are not officially dating. We've been friends for a long time, but things changed between us about 2 weeks ago. For those of you who remember me talking about my friend in my last thread - YEP. It's her.
Needless to say it's complicated and intense. She's on a journey to fix some things about herself. Her last relationship taught her some things she needed to change. Me - having feelings for someone other than my x brings up new fears. Sometimes I want to run when it get's too complicated.. but I convince myself to stay every time.
It's definitely a process. We seem to continue to move toward each others and I'm good with that. Her request was to help her grow as an individual. My request was that we both stepped boldly regardless of our fears when it came to each other.
So it's a day at a time. Maybe we will have a relationship. Maybe I will want more.. I don't know. Staying in the present is key for me right now. Acknowledging my fears and not allowing them to get the better of me is crucial.
However at the same time - I feel a sense of calm. I'm kinda like "he!!, if I can get through a Divorce and at the end of the day - be thankful... this is cake.". That thought keeps me grounded.
So yah - exciting stuff in my life. Hopeful, cautious, but always trying to be loving in everything I do.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
You sound really good! I am very happy for you. What an exciting time filled with new possibilities! And yes... No doubt... you can get through anything!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
I love it and I an't wait to get the latest update!
You so deserve to be happy (you already are and YOU make it happen) and to be loved (which you are, by many people).
Next comes a partner to share all of that with...
(((((val)))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
My X and I haven't spoke since August of 2013. In fact, I pretty much set the boundary that I couldn't really be friends with her seeing that she wanted to dip in and out of my life as she pleased.
Today - she did something random. She liked my profile pic on Facebook.
Sure - I can see her liking statuses/photos of our mutual friends.. but she went to my private profile and liked my picture. She's has never done anything like this in 3 years.
I'm not really spinning about it... I just kinda find it annoying. She really doesn't seem to get it does she?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
Have you thought about blocking her? I did that to my exw recently. It took some strentgh but I noticed that I obssessed over her life. Now there is silence in my brain
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
My X and I haven't spoke since August of 2013. In fact, I pretty much set the boundary that I couldn't really be friends with her seeing that she wanted to dip in and out of my life as she pleased.
Today - she did something random. She liked my profile pic on Facebook.
Sure - I can see her liking statuses/photos of our mutual friends.. but she went to my private profile and liked my picture. She's has never done anything like this in 3 years.
I'm not really spinning about it... I just kinda find it annoying. She really doesn't seem to get it does she?
What was she supposed to get?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
"Temptation comes when a door is left INTENTIONALLY open."
Why does she have access to your profile to begin with?
Deep down inside...are you angry or just confused?
Why is it annoying?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
