I just opened this post so whoever wants to vent or give an opinion about posts can freely do it here so we dont hijack the sitch of any user
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
And lets go with my first opinions: I am not here to judge what its right or wrong, I believe choices made us less or more happy but at the end they are choices and there is a beatiful option we have for the only fact that we are alive.
Now this is my opinion about affairs: An A its a choice, it might as many choices be conditioned or not, if my W comes back to me in a year and tells me: hey I wanted to divorced because I was seeing somebody... Its my choice to live with that or not..
When I came to this forum 2 months and a little ago, I used to say: if a woman cheats on me, she is done, there is no way to go back with her....and thats what I used to belief, I tought it was real, it wasnt real, if a woman cheats on me..its her choice...the same way she can buy apples or oranges, exactly the same, it hurts more but at the end its only that...a choice. Are you guilty of her having an affair? Well here comes the second question... Are you guilty of her buying apples over oranges? Nop You are who you are at certain time in your life and you can change certains things in your life unless you face difficulties...
If I have no idea that I have asthma how would I go to a doctor and work on a treatment for that? First I have to be aware of the condition, then I can face the necessary changes... Do you know how many people die without realizing that their spouse had an affair? I am sure more than once did that happened.
If my W never told me about D I would never reached this point, I would continue to hate gay people or inmigrants or black people... Do I hate them today? Thank God and life No I Dont!! Biggest advance on my life, so my experience to deal with acceptance had to be the hardest one I ever suffered but today thats the way I feel... You can look to the side and blame your partner and not look at improving yourself...but one day you will have to, and me personally I prefer to go to one D and be happy than to be M and be unhappy and not knowing why Again thats my choice...
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
MRBond today I underestand when you told me... Sometimes I wonder myself why I keep doing this? I am in the "hell with all this lets give her the D by sending myself the papers.."
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
Hello W I underestand your position and accept that this is the way you want things now... I am respecting your decission of D for the reasons you told me. All I am asking you its to stop this tendency to made things inconvenient for me, you want to D I accet that, what I am not accepting and I will defend myself against is your intention to hurt me. I received a call from Sprint, communicating me your desire to declare my phone as lost or stolen so you can move me out of the account...the consequences of this will be an expense I cant afford right now and the loose of my phone number that I need to be in contact with family and friends. I dont see any intention on this but to hurt me... I am in a tough economical situation due to your previous cancellation without asking first of the conedison and optimum... I will pay you the insurance of the car as soon as I recover economically from this unexpected expenses that I had to face. If you continue this path I will take all possible legal actions to defend myself and my well being. Divorce means separate ways not destroying the life of the other person because you feel like it... You Divorce because you want to be happy either with yourself or with somebody else, at this point I dont know what is true or what is a lie. I am not against your happiness, I encourage you to pursue that happiness, but respect me and dont try to make my life harder, I am respecting you and I wish you could do the same. If you want to act in a more neutral way I will collaborate and go with you to a physicall sprint store and separate lines if thats the next step to take after Sprint call us on monday.
Should I send it or not?
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
I am not up to date with your situation,but I would only send it after answering the following question.
Does this bring me closer to my ultimate goal?
If your goal is to save your marriage, then I would not send it. If your goal is to move on with your life and ask for a D, then I don't see am issue. Only you know the answers to these questions. Take a step back and reevaluate what you want to say and how you are feeling. With time your attitude about sending it may change.
Personally I would not send the message, ever, no matter what my answer was to either question.
I see from your words that you are hurtling, I wish I had better answers and advice for you. I will be thinking about you Ye, hang tough.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
Thank you Labug, gogogo and Wonka. I am back to reality now hehehe I am not planning to send that email sometimes I cant "see" the real content of my words... I am grateful to have you all in my life...even if we got to know each in the not most pleasant circustances hehehe
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
