Hi everyone. I am 52 and have been married for 32 years. My husband and i hav e never lived together under the same roof but always been faithful and a normal part of our lives. He has always been there for me financially and emotionally so we were this weird couple that lived apart but were together. I have always been unable to enjoy sex with him and it made me feel we were incompatable when i got infections no matter how hard i tryed but he loved me that way. I guess we had a sexless marriage. I never wanted sex with any one all those years until the middle of last year when I suddenly wanted it and had some sex with a few men and trhen found a sex buddy and did this crazy out of control stuff for seven straight months. My husband near killed himself and cracked up but i kept doing it with no remorse. I was so happy but we kept seeing each other every day as per usual and he eventually said he would wait as he thought it was just a mid life crisis. We were going to the club for drinks each friday and this woman he played pool with got close to him and then one night asked him bakc to her house and the next day (4 weeks ago) he told me he was finished with me and could not forgive me for all the pain he was put through. He did not feel that way at all a few days earlier but after that night with her he changed. I had come to him the day he said this unawares he had changed and said i was through with my bullsh... and wanted to fix out marriage etc but he had emotionally forced himself to go. It is 4 weeks now and he visits this woman every day after work and stays the noight every night and she lives just 1 mile up the road from my house. She is so possessive and rings and texts him all the time and after just 3 weeks with him is complaining he is still married to me and has told him she is worried i will try to sleep with him or he will come back to me. She has taken over his life. My 23 year old daughter has seen him a few times and said to him if this woman hadn't got involved we would have sorted all this out and he has agreed. He has told my daughter today he does not love her but enjoys all the attention and sex but it is so hard for me as i have had to do the no contact as the tension when he sees me is too much. I don't want to lose him and want to give my marriage a try and i know he would have done so himself if he wasn't in this relationship with her and i also know he would find it very hard to leave her know as he is a very faithful guy. How do i repair this or attempt to reach him? I know i deserve alot of this but this 7 month stint was out of character for me and i look back and wonder what the hell went wrong with me to have done that. He is so angry know but has only become so unforgiving and angry since he has been seeing her as just the day before that he was fine. This woman has lots of friends in my area and they have all been lying about me spreading rumours and trying to keep us apart and it upsets me that my life long partner is involved with these people and sleeping at her house every night within a stones throw form me. I just want to try and fix things butr don't know how to start.
