Yes. Agree with positive, negative or no communication. Seeing it this way makes sense.
So, I noticed she is not depositing her entire check. She is grabbing a small amount of cash and possibly saving it and hiding it from me. I guess I should ignore this behavior, as it will lead to a negative response but it is hard to draw the line when it comes to honesty between both of us. Makes sense?
Me: 37, WAW 33, M 13 years Kids: Boy: 4, Girl: 8 Separated: 10/24/13 DB since: 12/14/13 Big D talk started: 1/1/14 (Not served yet) Still living together/Separate rooms
We have always had a joint account. Never hid anything from each other and always place both our checks on the same checking account.
It wasn't until the past month in which I noticed she got a check card delivered to the house (by her mistake) and I noticed she had opened an account somewhere without letting me know. I ignored saying anything about it.
But this past check, she took 10% out in cash and deposited the rest, which we had never done. I am assuming is to place on that other account. Do I just sit and brew over this and do nothing?
Me: 37, WAW 33, M 13 years Kids: Boy: 4, Girl: 8 Separated: 10/24/13 DB since: 12/14/13 Big D talk started: 1/1/14 (Not served yet) Still living together/Separate rooms
Look up dissipation of marital assets and disposition of marital assets and consult your counsel. If you are legally separated, and there is a valuation date then all assets at that date are equalized. You will be entitled to know and she will be required to show statements for that date of ALL accounts, assets such as pensions, RRSP's etc etc etc. so will you. Make sure when the disclosure is released this account is shown on a net family property statement. If you are legally separated, then she has the right to have her own account and all in it after date of separation (valuation date) is hers. This date must be legally established and agreed to, make sure she was not dissipating assets prior to this date. Ask your lawyer. Do not be a doormat. Open your own account too. She is saving for a reason.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
The money can always be accounted for in any legal proceeding. But, calling her on it now seems like it would be pressuring her and pushing her away. Just MHO.
MH I wouldn't think too much of it. In most cases W is trying to make her plans for just her while on this journey. I don't see it as un natural to assume she is expecting to need money set aside to do something with. Much to the point her plans don't include you for the moment and you are going to have to face a long road of not letting that bother you while you work it out. If you react to the negative things you see it will only set you back.
M: 43 W: 43 Married 6 yrs. T: 7 yrs. Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10
We aren't legally separated. So what does this mean? I will consult with a lawyer but what would be the less confrontational way to approach it?
Me: 37, WAW 33, M 13 years Kids: Boy: 4, Girl: 8 Separated: 10/24/13 DB since: 12/14/13 Big D talk started: 1/1/14 (Not served yet) Still living together/Separate rooms
Me: 37, WAW 33, M 13 years Kids: Boy: 4, Girl: 8 Separated: 10/24/13 DB since: 12/14/13 Big D talk started: 1/1/14 (Not served yet) Still living together/Separate rooms
She came to ask me if I wanted the kids today or tomorrow. I told her I leave that up to her because I don't have any plans.
It bugs me how she makes it a statement about hanging separately. FYI, the kids don't know our situation yet.
Me: 37, WAW 33, M 13 years Kids: Boy: 4, Girl: 8 Separated: 10/24/13 DB since: 12/14/13 Big D talk started: 1/1/14 (Not served yet) Still living together/Separate rooms
She asked me of I wanted to have to kids today or tomorrow and I told her I leave that up to her since I don't have plans.
I am tempted to tell her I want to be with my family each day and see what happens. It bugs me to act as if I am accepting being separated.
Me: 37, WAW 33, M 13 years Kids: Boy: 4, Girl: 8 Separated: 10/24/13 DB since: 12/14/13 Big D talk started: 1/1/14 (Not served yet) Still living together/Separate rooms
