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I have been separated from my H since 3/2013. I was mean to him by saying things that I felt. I have been in a number of emotional and mental issues during the time we were engaged and have been married. I was so spread then trying to be present and take care of everyone in my family but apparently I was not there for my H. In the beginning of our relationship, I told my H that I had many issue with depression and problems with my child's father, but he told me that he was not going to let any of that get in the way of having a relationship. I was very hesitant and did not want to ruin my friendship with him because of my issues, but the more he pursued ,the more I fell in love and opened my heart to him. Now the very issues that I confided in him about are the reasons he is gone.He told me that I was crazy and dragging him to the ground. He wont talk to me or answer his phone when I have called. Totally cut me off. This has really hurt me to the core and I can't seem to get out of the dark hole I have been left in.The last time I spoke with him was in Oct 2013 when he urged me to sign paperwork for the divorce.I signed ,but he has not filed the papers to date.

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Sounds like pursuit and distance.

Read this thread

Pursuit and Distance
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=714209


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Sorry that you find yourself here. Get DB or DR right away and we'll be able to get you back on track.

Can you tell us what other issues you had in your M? The more specific you are, the better we will be able to help.


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well, my H also told his parents about our personal life without my knowledge and spend a lot of time on the computer.
i found a sticky note once he moved out with a woman's number and email address on it. He claimed she was just a co-worker at his past job.


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