What to think??

[Tina825]

I've been on the boards since September and do not want to be repetitive. Short summary: H had EA with woman we know 8/12, I found out immediately and he left our home. He was gone until 2/13 and we decided to work it out. In 8/13 I caught him with second phone and asked him to leave. He came back 11/13 (I know too soon), and then left again Christmas Eve at which time I found out he had yet another phone.

The OW texted me when he first came home and spewed alot of information to me as to why I should never want him back, etc. I blocked her number. He told her he was going home where he belonged and not to contact him again. He blocked her number also but then she started sending pics using someone elses phone.

My problem is, he's never told me he doesn't love me, he says I'm the best woman he's ever known. He says the reason he left is because my D18 "used" him for a car and didn't go to the college she stated she was going to and isn't working the job she said she was. This is his only reason. He says he knows he'll have to see her the rest of his life and that he doesn't want to live unhappy for what short life he has left. BTW, she pays her own car note and insurance and does not ask us for anything and she does not live in the home.

I'm very confused. I know at this point I shouldn't even want to be with this man who can't be trusted, but a part of me still does. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

[Roberta]

My suggestion would be to call a Divorce Busting coach. There is no problem that is too severe or long standing for a DB coach to handle. Your coach will help you gain a perspective and understanding of what is really happening in your marriage. You will finally get a real plan of what needs to be done in order to make an effective change in your relationship. I am happy to discuss our coaching program. Please call me at 303-444-7004

[Tina825]

I have a coach that I've worked with. I have one more session paid for and was trying to save it for "hard" times I guess. Thank you Roberta.

[Roberta]

These sound like the "hard times" you are saving up for. It would be very productive to let your coach help you redefine your goals and discuss what you need to do to bring about lasting, positive change. You will feel better knowing that you have the support and expert knowledge of your coach to help guide you through these times. Please call us to schedule this last appointment so that you know how to move forward.