H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Not a good start to the morning I'm afraid someone I considered my friend on here has whacked me round the head with a huge 2x4 and it's really hurt. He's basically given up on me just because I said that I'm looking for some companionship we've been PMing for a few months now and shared a lot together about our sitches. This is the first Christmas without H and my emotions are up and down at the mo. I've had to write cards and presents from just me and my son and I was finding that hard to make matters worse he called me a bible bashing Christian, which I don't go around doing. The way my H has been treating me lately - wanting a d, trying to get me to sell the house, involved in an OW maybe, who can blame me for wanting some love back. It's hard standing for your marriage, especially when you're up against it all. Rant over, have a good day everyone
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Thanks NQ I may or may not do anything about the attention I'm getting. Probably not, but it's my way of trying to detach from my H. It worked last time he left, which is why I'm trying this strategy Last time I knew that he'd moved on as he moved in with the OW, I got friendly with this lad I knew and then he ended up getting a girlfriend. He told me as well, guess he thought I was just a friend. Nothing happened between us, though at the time I would've liked it to happen. I also made sure that our mutual friend knew all the goings on as well We've both lost contact with our mutual friend ages ago, which is a shame as he was a real source of gossip
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well if you're done with H then so be it, that's your choice. If your sitch were a month old then I'd tell you that maybe you're being hasty, but it's been almost a year. Sometimes it takes the LBS getting fed up and just being done with it all before the WAS realizes that they are really losing them, and sometimes that's the wake-up call the WAS needs to look back. Unfortunately you can't be "done" as a trick to get them back, you have to really be done. Irony at its finest.
Ahhh but we can act "as if" I'm just fed up of the way he's treating me at the mo and when you get men who flatter you and treat you like a lady then it makes you think doesn't it? Which one would I rather have? Someone who criticises and sees the negative in everything I do or someone who's interested in me as a person. I want someone to look after me and care for me, not someone who drops my son off at the door and drives off. I feel he is done, I feel he's not going out of this MLC that he's in at the mo for a long time and can I wait that long? I know I keep mentioning this 29 year old, but he did make me realise what I'm missing. It was night time when he'd finished the painting and the last thing he said to me when he left was - "lock the door behind me!". It's those little thoughtful things that you miss. I'm sure there's someone out there for me and if I'm still single when H comes out of his crisis, well we'll just have to see As long as the H who comes out of his crisis is the H that will care for me, will love me for who I am and support me
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Tt180 learn to love yourself from within. There is definitely someone out there for you, if not millions. 50% of the population is single. So don't worry.
This time of year is very difficult. Emotions and feelings you thought were under control just creep up on you. The fears may come back and so do feelings of vulnerability. Just be careful about new R too soon so no one gets hurt.
Besides sex is over rated lol
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Thanks for your words of wisdom Rick I guess it's this time of year that we all start feeling lonely and look for that special someone to brighten up our day
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Besides sex is over rated lol
Well... That's the first time I've heard THAT comment coming from a bloke, lol. Just kidding
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
A bloke is a man You said the above quote, so I what I meant was it's unusual for a man to say that
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
someone I considered my friend on here has whacked me round the head with a huge 2x4 and it's really hurt. He's basically given up on me just because I said that I'm looking for some companionship 