I liked this book, maybe it would help you. Maybe I am way off.
Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men: How to Free Yourself from the Grip of Anger and Get More Out of Life by Thomas J. Harbin
Take Care SP
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Your "feelings" are what is making you a bitter angry man. Your "feelings" is what makes you act in such reactive manners. Your "feelings" are cementing you in place. Your "feelings" are eating you alive.
Your "feelings" have to go away.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
This has come in handy for me. I say this to myself in situations like your facebook discovery..........
"Shame on me for having kids with someone that has soo little class"
now STOP SNOOPING!
You will get better but you need to start writing the NEXT chapter in your life.
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
