I am in a R. We spend most of the time together. But I like a day or two just for me. It's weird. When I feel overwhelmed by her, her D and life I take off. I go home and chill. Like tonight. Couldn't do this when M. I really like it. Used to feel lonely but I don't anymore. Hope I'm not becoming a caveman.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Hi, Rick! Turtlegirl here- first night here but have been around DBing for quite a while.
Interesting that you say you are in need of your alone time. I just want to bandwagon on what gabby said...that every healthy R needs to have a balance of time together and time apart.
YOu can't be everything to each other...you need other R's with other people- friends/family... and you need to continue your own interests and hobbies too. So, don't feel guilty--I think you are perfectly validated in wanting alone time!
If you start to prefer alone time (in general) to time spent with your R partner/GF, then I would start to question this a bit!
I am also a person who likes to spend A LOT of time with my partner, but I realize in the new R I am in that it is SO important to maintain that balance.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
If it is, I'm Nutz... I come back here every once in a great while and your the only name I recognize. Probably because I can relate on some levels. Anyway, I was starting to think i was weird/odd for that same reason as well... Who's to say...?
Me:38 W:35 T:13 M:10 (3/15/01) SD:12 D:9 S:4 Need time to think: 7/19/11 D Bomb Dropped: 8/26/11 W serves me D papers: 9/6/11 Officially served 9/30/11
Hi Rick, just attaching to your thread as we've talked a lot on FB I think you need some alone time to ease yourself into a new R. After being alone for a while now and doing your own thing, I presume, you will need to get used to having company again in your home We get into a comfortable routine on our own or with our family and if that routine gets disrupted for a few days we start to get stressed. Well I know I do anyway, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Man what I wouldn't give for some alone time! I think I have had maybe three full nights alone since the divorce. The boys are almost always here with their friends or girlfriends. Alone time almost doesn't exist except for an hour here or there.
Enjoy! kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I think you need some alone time to ease yourself into a new R. After being alone for a while now and doing your own thing, I presume, you will need to get used to having company again in your home 
