The big D is coming

[Wisdone]

Still haven't worked out the signature bit.
Me47, W50
M21,T27
4 Boys 11,15,17&19.
Bomb drop 1Dec13

[Wisdone]

Latest update, we are sharing a bed but no intimacy. Had a small discussion about our R last night and its clear W wants a divorce.

I’m away with the kids in Ireland from 27th and W is staying in London. I’ve told my family she is not coming and W has told her parents that we are divorcing next year.

We haven’t said anything to the kids yet but will have too in Jan. What I need is some advice on how you tell your kids. What is the best way to tell them?

I’m fine, working on myself at the moment and looking forward to the holidays in Ireland.

[Wisdone]

Came back from Ireland after 10 days away and W was delighted to see the boys.

Visited my brother who had a new baby boy on Sunday morning and W asked to come along to which I said yes. W all friendly and smile at my brother’s house.

Later in the evening as I was cooking dinner for our S15 Birthday, just as I was about to serve up, W said she has completed the D paper work and I'll have the papers in a week or two. I couldn’t believe the timing, I had to pull myself together quickly and serve dinner and cake for my S. Was smiling on the outside only.

I didn’t realise how thoughtless my W could be, she thinks I’m made of stone!

[AnotherStander]

Yeah, it's amazing how casual they can be about D papers, like it's a car registration renewal or something. Your W is pushing the D through too fast, your sitch has barely started. Unfortunately you can't reason with her, you're just along for the ride. Sometimes it's not until after D that the WAS starts emerging from the fog, so D isn't necessarily the end of things. Hang in there and be strong for your boys!

[Wisdone]

Thank you Anotherstander.

I'm beginning to realise how tough this journey is going to be and how far I will have to travel to be the best I can be.

[Wisdone]

Just a quick note on here to everyone who's posted and whose posts I've read, thank you all.

I’m a lurker and wanted to let you know that there are probably many more like me who you have all helped tremendously by the sharing of your posts.

And to Divorce Busting book which has enable my W and I to try again.

I haven't posted a lot but have received immense support from all the stories I've read, the incredible helpful tactics and strategies in the replies from some brilliant supportive posters on this site and just the general positive vibe of how making small changes can have huge positive impact on your life and how you feel about life in general. How by being a better person you make the world a better place for you, your children and everyone you have a relationship with.

Thank you all.

Ltdmtp.